Some thing good to say…
I feel like I use this journal as a constant whine/bitch/freak out area. I rarely report on happy things or simple pleasures in my life. I actually lead a beautiful life but I get so caught up in the one or two places where things aren’t smooth that I forget the rest of the good stuff.
• Jake just got offered a 5th day at his work. He has been working on getting this for the last several months. This means he gets to leave his 1 day a week job (were the pay is crap, the org. is financially unstable and he works 11hrs in 1 day seeing back to back clients). This also means we get cheaper health care costs since a 1fte (40+ hrs/wk) means the org. will kick in more for our premiums! Nice!
• The boy has been with us a year and has slipped so seamlessly into the household that none of us can imagine him not being there. (Right now he isn’t there but only because he is back in Indiana visiting family and friends for a week.) He recently voiced interest in moving from “Uncle” status with the future rugrat to co-parent status. He seems to think that it is still “under discussion” but Jake and I accepted that change immediately. We always believed that kids do well with lots of loving adult caregivers. He can always go back to “uncle” if he chooses before the lil’un is born but I seriously doubt he will. The boy really wants us to have a kid. In fact, he is crossing his fingers for twins!
• After many years of slightly distant adjustment friendship with my ex, we have finally rediscovered our connection and fully returned to the friendship I always knew was possible for us. With those adjustment years he has grown and changed to become even more of a caring, thoughtful and amazingly intelligent person. Having him back in my life has been wonderfully calming and intellectually stimulating. I’m so happy to count him as one of my closes friends
• My job, though low-paying, is easy and my boss loves me. She often feels that I do 8hrs worth of work in about 5hrs and will send me home early every now and then. She even bought me a gift one day just because I make her life easier! Keep in mind I haven’t worked there for even 90 days! (I’m still a little PTSD after a horrible boss a few years back. Little kindnesses make me very happy.) I’m working for a non-profit that provides low-cost psych care, recovery, therapeutic foster care and support to children and families. That part also doesn’t suck.
• My pets are healthy. Pepper may be missing 8 teeth now but her breath is sooooo much better. This also means she gets a lot more cuddling now that we can stand to be closer to her.
• I learned that I really like agave in my coffee, even better than sugar. Mmmm! I have high hopes that I’ll be able to learn to work with it in my baking.
• I’m putting up my hammock this weekend!!
• Jake’s mom has offered to pay for us to get our bathroom fixed!!! (She just got a large settlement.) We have some sort of tiny leaking going on in the walls behind our shower. It has caused moisture to build up in the drywall and rot from inside. This would be way out of our reach right now. We figured we’d just do what we could to keep things stable until we could refinance in a couple years and pull out some equity to fix it. It will suck to lose our only shower for awhile but we have a plan to go to the public pool every other day, swim some laps and then shower there. That could end up being a great way to get in the habit!
I could go on but I’m going to stop for now. Wow…that really made me feel better!
• Jake just got offered a 5th day at his work. He has been working on getting this for the last several months. This means he gets to leave his 1 day a week job (were the pay is crap, the org. is financially unstable and he works 11hrs in 1 day seeing back to back clients). This also means we get cheaper health care costs since a 1fte (40+ hrs/wk) means the org. will kick in more for our premiums! Nice!
• The boy has been with us a year and has slipped so seamlessly into the household that none of us can imagine him not being there. (Right now he isn’t there but only because he is back in Indiana visiting family and friends for a week.) He recently voiced interest in moving from “Uncle” status with the future rugrat to co-parent status. He seems to think that it is still “under discussion” but Jake and I accepted that change immediately. We always believed that kids do well with lots of loving adult caregivers. He can always go back to “uncle” if he chooses before the lil’un is born but I seriously doubt he will. The boy really wants us to have a kid. In fact, he is crossing his fingers for twins!
• After many years of slightly distant adjustment friendship with my ex, we have finally rediscovered our connection and fully returned to the friendship I always knew was possible for us. With those adjustment years he has grown and changed to become even more of a caring, thoughtful and amazingly intelligent person. Having him back in my life has been wonderfully calming and intellectually stimulating. I’m so happy to count him as one of my closes friends
• My job, though low-paying, is easy and my boss loves me. She often feels that I do 8hrs worth of work in about 5hrs and will send me home early every now and then. She even bought me a gift one day just because I make her life easier! Keep in mind I haven’t worked there for even 90 days! (I’m still a little PTSD after a horrible boss a few years back. Little kindnesses make me very happy.) I’m working for a non-profit that provides low-cost psych care, recovery, therapeutic foster care and support to children and families. That part also doesn’t suck.
• My pets are healthy. Pepper may be missing 8 teeth now but her breath is sooooo much better. This also means she gets a lot more cuddling now that we can stand to be closer to her.
• I learned that I really like agave in my coffee, even better than sugar. Mmmm! I have high hopes that I’ll be able to learn to work with it in my baking.
• I’m putting up my hammock this weekend!!
• Jake’s mom has offered to pay for us to get our bathroom fixed!!! (She just got a large settlement.) We have some sort of tiny leaking going on in the walls behind our shower. It has caused moisture to build up in the drywall and rot from inside. This would be way out of our reach right now. We figured we’d just do what we could to keep things stable until we could refinance in a couple years and pull out some equity to fix it. It will suck to lose our only shower for awhile but we have a plan to go to the public pool every other day, swim some laps and then shower there. That could end up being a great way to get in the habit!
I could go on but I’m going to stop for now. Wow…that really made me feel better!