sidenote
you know, finding out one's bf has a thing for androgyny is pretty cool. looking too masculine is sometimes one of my only complaints about my appearance, to the point where i said something on another blog. there's no need for a link or anything, just be assured that about 1/3 of the times i really study myself in the mirror i think about those books where girls passed themselves off as men to go fighting and whatnot and consider that i could do so if it weren't for definitely feminine hands and codes of behavior that make stripping to the waist acceptable for only half of a given population. and about 1/3 of those times, i wonder if the term "handsome woman" was a kind of insult and look for the bleach. but hey! now there's an extra level of "but it's all good; I could even capitalize on that vibe if I felt like it," which is good for the self-esteem.