yanie no hitorigoto: the choice a family has to decide...
Kusanagi Tsuyoshi's recent drama, NINKYO HELPER is VERY GOOD! The story, the acting, the whole production really has high quality! No kidding! I hope this wins BEST DRAMA award for this season.
This drama makes me realized and understand old people's feelings and thoughts, and so I feel I have to appreciate and love my mother more, and if only my ( Read more... )
yeah, the theme is good.
and i understand it well coz i've been through it.
i'm glad i have opportunity taking care both my late grandparents.
my mom is former certified nurse; american-graduate. so, from live until end of life... they're living with us. i helped my mom. i guess i just obeyed to do this.. to allay her disappointment for not choosing medical science as my undergraduate course.
nursing old folks... really tiresome. especially when it comes to Cleaning. bath them, changing diapers, combing hair, giving massage, feeding 'em. need to keep smile even how many times we repeated the same answer.
both my parents are 59 years now. they look young but in reality, their whole bodies already weak. months ago, my dad asked me.. 'when i become too old, would you sent me to nursing house?". and if i staying in my own room... my mom will always call me, "where are you just now? please come here, sit next to me, i'm afraid i haven't much time to see you more. do you know how much i miss you".
regarding vegetative state. and ethic code.
my late younger brother was in comma for 3 weeks 3 days. because of tumor.
his operation was succeed.. but the post-effect [high fever, difficult breathing] was the reason why he was given sedative...and let him breathing with support machine. they said my brother still 20s. such a young age. he could conscious back easily.
up to now, i still regret one thing.
i was always thinking how much effort the doctors & nurses done at that time to save his life. watching Kyumei Byoto or any realistic medical dramas, it's so different. i understand both practitioner-patient sides. but how can.. they just saying, 'oh the reading getting lower' and just watching us from far.
in 3 weeks 3 days, 2 times my brother was conscious.. holding my hand.. trying to move his mask..wanna speak something. but the breathing wasn't good and the docs make him 'sleep' again.
thinking back, two times... my brother struggling to come back alive for twice. what a big effort he did. but the doctors.... do nothing during the critical stage.
as muslim, we accept it, yes.
but at one point.. we regret that we didn't get opportunity to speak and asking forgiveness from him.
entering ICU, he asking non-stop to medical staff:
'where's my mom? where's my sister? where's my little sis?".
i was on the road, rushing to hospital. my little sis urgently need to take care our nephew who had high fever. my father was outstation trying to catch a flight, and my mom alone had discussion with doctor.
receiving non-stop text messages from my young bro..
i know he's scared there.
being alone, must be scary ne :(
do u remember what riko said to saburo?
'have u ever forgot to tell someone thank you? have u ever forgot to tell someone goodbye? have u forgot to tell how much u love someone?'
dakara.. i understand how do u feel.
but u still can do something for your dad..
think about him, appreciate him, sent al-Fatihah and doa'...
he still needs your love. always.
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but the doctors.... do nothing during the critical stage.
Omg! Don't you just hate that?? How much I hate the nurses to be moving sooooo slow even after we've brought our father to the emergency room >_< I kept wondering if my father can be saved if only we were in a Japanese hospital. (you know how Indonesians are slowpokes and less caring and not professional -_-)
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