rEtreat rule rehash again.
I don't know why I am even posting this, my opinion on this should be clear by now. Instead of writing anything new, I am just copying excerpts from posts. Anyhow Carmen asked on facebook about her husband coming, does anyone have a problem with that? I don't.
Carmen from facebook
Hey guys. I would love to see everyone but I have a wedding in Saratoga Springs that weekend. I am not sure what the weekend plans are yet but with me being so close I will keep you guys posted. Chris , my husband, might also be with me depending if he can get that Friday off for the wedding. I know he is not an "E" b...ut would he be welcomed if I was able to make it?
Stuff from me
2010 on facebook.
I always said (and this is what I said to Sarah when she asked if Marcus could come in 03) if its ok with the group, its ok with me, its that simple. So basically unless its a big problem with someone in the group I have no problem with i...t. While its nice to keep this to the original group when we can, I think as we grow, get married and have kids and what not, its going to be more difficult to do that.
I do however want to know who is coming, E's or otherwise.
I leave it up to the majority.
2006 On LJ
As I stated before the original intention of the no S/O rule was not to make this an exclusive event as it seems to have been interpreted. The reason was simple I didn't want drama, and before the first rEtreat I had considered the thing only being one day for the same reason. I decided to make it the whole weekend in the end, but because at the time I didn't know most of who anyone was dating and I didn't want a bunch of ppl I didn't know it seemed easier to say no S/O's Once again the reason was to reduce drama during the event. At the time Sarah did ask me about bringing Marcus and I said to her that if she asked everyone then it would be ok. The reason for this is simple, if everyone gets along with whom ever is being brought then it wouldn't cause drama.
For the record I don't nor have I ever personally had a problem if other close S/O's that we all already know and love wanted to come. I still don't want a bunch of ppl that only one of us knows coming. I do want this to be an event for a nice group of friends to get together and enjoy each others company, roast marshmallows and in general have a good time together.
2004 On LJ
As rules are made to be broken, I did make an exception last time, when asked if a non E could come (the non E was someone that most E's knew including myself) , my reply was that as long as it was ok with the rest of the E group, then it was ok with me. The reason for this is simple, I don't want the rEtreat to become a free for all, I consider it a special event. If I make an exception for one, then I don't want people saying, well, she brought a friend, so I am going to bring one, or she brought a friend, why wasn't I allowed to. If I get a request to bring a friend, I leave the answer up to the group, because you are making that exception, not me, I simply ask that you don't fight over it or blame me for being un-fair. If everyone brings there friends then it is no longer a rEtreat, instead its like any other time I have people up, which I do as often as I can. This is all I am going to say on this issue.
Carmen from facebook
Hey guys. I would love to see everyone but I have a wedding in Saratoga Springs that weekend. I am not sure what the weekend plans are yet but with me being so close I will keep you guys posted. Chris , my husband, might also be with me depending if he can get that Friday off for the wedding. I know he is not an "E" b...ut would he be welcomed if I was able to make it?
Stuff from me
2010 on facebook.
I always said (and this is what I said to Sarah when she asked if Marcus could come in 03) if its ok with the group, its ok with me, its that simple. So basically unless its a big problem with someone in the group I have no problem with i...t. While its nice to keep this to the original group when we can, I think as we grow, get married and have kids and what not, its going to be more difficult to do that.
I do however want to know who is coming, E's or otherwise.
I leave it up to the majority.
2006 On LJ
As I stated before the original intention of the no S/O rule was not to make this an exclusive event as it seems to have been interpreted. The reason was simple I didn't want drama, and before the first rEtreat I had considered the thing only being one day for the same reason. I decided to make it the whole weekend in the end, but because at the time I didn't know most of who anyone was dating and I didn't want a bunch of ppl I didn't know it seemed easier to say no S/O's Once again the reason was to reduce drama during the event. At the time Sarah did ask me about bringing Marcus and I said to her that if she asked everyone then it would be ok. The reason for this is simple, if everyone gets along with whom ever is being brought then it wouldn't cause drama.
For the record I don't nor have I ever personally had a problem if other close S/O's that we all already know and love wanted to come. I still don't want a bunch of ppl that only one of us knows coming. I do want this to be an event for a nice group of friends to get together and enjoy each others company, roast marshmallows and in general have a good time together.
2004 On LJ
As rules are made to be broken, I did make an exception last time, when asked if a non E could come (the non E was someone that most E's knew including myself) , my reply was that as long as it was ok with the rest of the E group, then it was ok with me. The reason for this is simple, I don't want the rEtreat to become a free for all, I consider it a special event. If I make an exception for one, then I don't want people saying, well, she brought a friend, so I am going to bring one, or she brought a friend, why wasn't I allowed to. If I get a request to bring a friend, I leave the answer up to the group, because you are making that exception, not me, I simply ask that you don't fight over it or blame me for being un-fair. If everyone brings there friends then it is no longer a rEtreat, instead its like any other time I have people up, which I do as often as I can. This is all I am going to say on this issue.