So I know I'm updating a ton but what can I say? I'm making up for lost time, and I'm snowed in and bored. Anyway, the point is. Actually there are several points
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Thank you for such a thoughtful contribution to the discussion! :)
I have to firstly say that I think it's kind of amusing that you mentioned that about Annaleigh because she is the only character of mine I've ever written who I ever had the urge to dabble in watersports with. As you said, outside of fic, just...ick.
Secondly, the incest thing. Wow, you brought up a point I hadn't considered but it is TOTALLY VALID. Haha. That's so very true, that we are naturally inclined, as viewers/readers/fans whatever, to pair people together whom we find attractive. That, plus the taboo factor and most peoples' desire to explore that aspect makes a perfect combination.
Danger, I can see where that comes from for the general public. For me, having been as involved as I have been in D/s relationships and the lifestyle as a whole, I don't find much dangerous anymore. Not the things that classify under the SSC (safe, sane and consensual) guidelines that most of the community operates under. I mean, yes, natural risks are incurred, but generally they are not any more dangerous (or only slightly more) than engaging in regular sexual activity. But I can see where 99% of people would agree with that, and I would too, with those I was not comfortable with.
PS, you should write that Annaleigh fic. I'd be interested to read it, and I know quite a few others who would be too. :-p
=D So the Annaleigh fic, well, it was an urge within a fic I'm already writing... so I might incorporate that in at some point >D I've posted the first part on my community http://community.livejournal.com/wickedly_real if you want to read it.
So, the danger thing, yeah. I think people who aren't experienced in the lifestyle might be freaked out about it, or people who are experienced in the lifestyle in the wrong way. I'm sure there are tops out there that have fucked up with things because they don't care enough to learn the right way to do them. Which is a related but unrelated topic in fiction - people inexperienced in the lifestyle trying to write it and like you said, writing it for the kink/shock value rather than the desire to express a D/s relationship in all its aspects.
Okay, I joined but I have to wait for you or your comod to approve so get on that! :-p
And YES. To your entire second paragraph. Thankfully, I've found that most of my fandoms are pretty good about at least researching and not writing for shock value, even if they don't have the experience. rysler is an excellent example of someone who doesn't have much RL D/s experience but writes it incredibly well anyway, because she's just awesome like that.
I'm glad you're enjoying the discussion haha. It's fun. Also, I know nothing about you, other than that you write good Gelphie D/s fic haha. Tell me moreee. You can also IM me on AIM, if you wish. I'm always up for new friends. :)
I realized it was in your profile after I asked, lol. You appear to be offline, though O.o mine's JaidenTantra. And yay, you're reading it! Hope you like.
I have to firstly say that I think it's kind of amusing that you mentioned that about Annaleigh because she is the only character of mine I've ever written who I ever had the urge to dabble in watersports with. As you said, outside of fic, just...ick.
Secondly, the incest thing. Wow, you brought up a point I hadn't considered but it is TOTALLY VALID. Haha. That's so very true, that we are naturally inclined, as viewers/readers/fans whatever, to pair people together whom we find attractive. That, plus the taboo factor and most peoples' desire to explore that aspect makes a perfect combination.
Danger, I can see where that comes from for the general public. For me, having been as involved as I have been in D/s relationships and the lifestyle as a whole, I don't find much dangerous anymore. Not the things that classify under the SSC (safe, sane and consensual) guidelines that most of the community operates under. I mean, yes, natural risks are incurred, but generally they are not any more dangerous (or only slightly more) than engaging in regular sexual activity. But I can see where 99% of people would agree with that, and I would too, with those I was not comfortable with.
PS, you should write that Annaleigh fic. I'd be interested to read it, and I know quite a few others who would be too. :-p
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So, the danger thing, yeah. I think people who aren't experienced in the lifestyle might be freaked out about it, or people who are experienced in the lifestyle in the wrong way. I'm sure there are tops out there that have fucked up with things because they don't care enough to learn the right way to do them. Which is a related but unrelated topic in fiction - people inexperienced in the lifestyle trying to write it and like you said, writing it for the kink/shock value rather than the desire to express a D/s relationship in all its aspects.
I <3 this discussion. LOL.
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And YES. To your entire second paragraph. Thankfully, I've found that most of my fandoms are pretty good about at least researching and not writing for shock value, even if they don't have the experience. rysler is an excellent example of someone who doesn't have much RL D/s experience but writes it incredibly well anyway, because she's just awesome like that.
I'm glad you're enjoying the discussion haha. It's fun. Also, I know nothing about you, other than that you write good Gelphie D/s fic haha. Tell me moreee. You can also IM me on AIM, if you wish. I'm always up for new friends. :)
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