It is Saturday night and I have time to update. Why you ask? Simply because I feel like shit, cannot even leave my couch, so I cannot make it to the parties. On to other stuff
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Sounds like you don't have a whole lot of friends who listen to you when they should be giving you support.
Take this info from someone who grew up around "asshole drunks:" They are parasites. Just as most parasites don't care what damage they do to their host, so long as they get what they want, in the same vein, some of your friends sound no different. I'm not saying it's wrong to lend a hand, how can I? Friendships are built by "give and take." But how much giving is there to taking? If that "give and take" is as out of balance as your post seems to indicate, then it isn't much of a friendship, is it?
And being alone with some extremely horny drunk dude? I'll be honest, for a young girl like you, that wasn't wise -- he might not have backed off after you rejected his advances, and you would have been in real trouble.
Don't be a Good Samaritan if you keep winding up finishing last. For all of the trouble you posted that you went through, you didn't really mention anything that anyone did for you in return -- I'd start keeping that in mind.
*hugs* I don't mean to rip on you, I know you're trying to do the right thing. You'll be OK.
Yeah. Sometimes it gets frustrating for me, because I know that I offer myself way too much to others. But I hate seeing others in pain. I couldn't expect anyone to give back to me. I don't know.
And yes, I guess I was real lucky. Even though he was a friend, something could happen. And I wasn't really thinking about that at the time, I just wanted him to make it back to his apartment okay.
Take this info from someone who grew up around "asshole drunks:" They are parasites. Just as most parasites don't care what damage they do to their host, so long as they get what they want, in the same vein, some of your friends sound no different. I'm not saying it's wrong to lend a hand, how can I? Friendships are built by "give and take." But how much giving is there to taking? If that "give and take" is as out of balance as your post seems to indicate, then it isn't much of a friendship, is it?
And being alone with some extremely horny drunk dude? I'll be honest, for a young girl like you, that wasn't wise -- he might not have backed off after you rejected his advances, and you would have been in real trouble.
Don't be a Good Samaritan if you keep winding up finishing last. For all of the trouble you posted that you went through, you didn't really mention anything that anyone did for you in return -- I'd start keeping that in mind.
*hugs* I don't mean to rip on you, I know you're trying to do the right thing. You'll be OK.
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And yes, I guess I was real lucky. Even though he was a friend, something could happen. And I wasn't really thinking about that at the time, I just wanted him to make it back to his apartment okay.
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