Is Marriage the new Black?
Why is everybody, their sister, AND their brother getting married all of a sudden? Where do they FIND these people? And why, after seeing a person with someone ONCE, the next time you see them they're married? Is this the new TREND or something? A conspiracy to try to make single people feel like they have a time-limit on love? I just don't understand it.
A possible reason for all this manic-marriage could very well be Hollywood. Paris Hilton's sister, Nicky, was married to some old guy no one had ever even SEEN her with before. J-Lo rebounded on long-term engagement Ben Affleck with Marc Anthony . . . had they even MET before they got married? Then, there's Britney . . . don't get me STARTED on her. It seems like everyone's skipping the whole DATING and ENGAGEMENT stages of a relationship and moving right to the grand finale . . . which almost always leads to a marriage-finale.
I must admit, I'm not a big fan of engagements . . . especially EXTENSIVE, TEDIOUS engagements that everyone MUST hear the details about and everyone MUST gawk at your ring to make sure it's not bigger than theirs, etc. I personally think engagements are unnecessary. I mean, if you really LOVE the person, there's no need to put them through the anxious purgatory of an engagement. I mean, SURE, you get a ring, but what consolation is THAT when you're WAITING? You're not married, so you can't really BE with the person you love, and you're not single anymore, so you can't go out and have fun and flirt. You're basically stuck in the no-man's-land of relationships . . . pitifully waiting, waiting . . . WAITING for the wedding day.
Instead of simply skipping the ENGAGEMENT process, couples are now starting to skip the whole KNOWING process! You meet someone, figure out that you're attracted to SOME quality they have, figure that time will run out if you don't act now, and--BOOM--you're married. Why, why, WHY are couples so hell-bent on sticking labels on their love?
Whatever happened to the trend where couples NEVER got married? Hollywood was basically marriage-free for YEARS, now there are brides and grooms popping up everywhere . . . why?!
It seems that couples have forgotten the joys of getting to KNOW each other. Dating now has a stopwatch attached . . . three dates=sex, one month=relationship, etc. People can't WAIT to stick a title on each other, or their relationship. I'd rather be in a relationship where there was no pressure to live up to a title . . . am I the only one left who thinks that way? Call me crazy, but I'd rather wait. I LIKE the stress-less-ness of being able to talk for hours about anything, being able to cuddle on the couch and feel comfortable without any pressure to move FASTER . . . basically, I like having the freedom to want to be with someone because I genuinely WANT to, not because I'm OBLIGATED to for fear of not being a "good girlfriend."
Yes, I'm sure that the prospect of "good, old-fashioned wedded bliss" intrigues and entices most couples . . . but what they seem to FAIL to realize is that you can't HAVE "wedded bliss" with just ANYBODY! Just because you're married to someone does NOT mean you will go skipping off into the sunset to your castle in the clouds (damn Disney for instilling that perception into women's heads at such an early age). Wedding vows are SUPPOSED to mean something, and they SHOULDN'T be just a spur-of-the-moment emotional high. If someone would just turn OFF the dating-stopwatch and actually take the time to KNOW someone for all that they are, maybe there would be actual LOVE there . . . without any wedding bells drowning it out.
A possible reason for all this manic-marriage could very well be Hollywood. Paris Hilton's sister, Nicky, was married to some old guy no one had ever even SEEN her with before. J-Lo rebounded on long-term engagement Ben Affleck with Marc Anthony . . . had they even MET before they got married? Then, there's Britney . . . don't get me STARTED on her. It seems like everyone's skipping the whole DATING and ENGAGEMENT stages of a relationship and moving right to the grand finale . . . which almost always leads to a marriage-finale.
I must admit, I'm not a big fan of engagements . . . especially EXTENSIVE, TEDIOUS engagements that everyone MUST hear the details about and everyone MUST gawk at your ring to make sure it's not bigger than theirs, etc. I personally think engagements are unnecessary. I mean, if you really LOVE the person, there's no need to put them through the anxious purgatory of an engagement. I mean, SURE, you get a ring, but what consolation is THAT when you're WAITING? You're not married, so you can't really BE with the person you love, and you're not single anymore, so you can't go out and have fun and flirt. You're basically stuck in the no-man's-land of relationships . . . pitifully waiting, waiting . . . WAITING for the wedding day.
Instead of simply skipping the ENGAGEMENT process, couples are now starting to skip the whole KNOWING process! You meet someone, figure out that you're attracted to SOME quality they have, figure that time will run out if you don't act now, and--BOOM--you're married. Why, why, WHY are couples so hell-bent on sticking labels on their love?
Whatever happened to the trend where couples NEVER got married? Hollywood was basically marriage-free for YEARS, now there are brides and grooms popping up everywhere . . . why?!
It seems that couples have forgotten the joys of getting to KNOW each other. Dating now has a stopwatch attached . . . three dates=sex, one month=relationship, etc. People can't WAIT to stick a title on each other, or their relationship. I'd rather be in a relationship where there was no pressure to live up to a title . . . am I the only one left who thinks that way? Call me crazy, but I'd rather wait. I LIKE the stress-less-ness of being able to talk for hours about anything, being able to cuddle on the couch and feel comfortable without any pressure to move FASTER . . . basically, I like having the freedom to want to be with someone because I genuinely WANT to, not because I'm OBLIGATED to for fear of not being a "good girlfriend."
Yes, I'm sure that the prospect of "good, old-fashioned wedded bliss" intrigues and entices most couples . . . but what they seem to FAIL to realize is that you can't HAVE "wedded bliss" with just ANYBODY! Just because you're married to someone does NOT mean you will go skipping off into the sunset to your castle in the clouds (damn Disney for instilling that perception into women's heads at such an early age). Wedding vows are SUPPOSED to mean something, and they SHOULDN'T be just a spur-of-the-moment emotional high. If someone would just turn OFF the dating-stopwatch and actually take the time to KNOW someone for all that they are, maybe there would be actual LOVE there . . . without any wedding bells drowning it out.