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as is so often a theme in my life (not by choice i assure you), i've come into conversations about femayle competition and, indirectly, male identification within hardcore (though these things exist outside of hardcore as well
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and yeah. i totally understand/indentify with what you said. i know that for a lot of my life i was really threatened by other girls. as i grew older, i found myself to be really different than most girls and more inclined to hang out with dudes because of it. then when a new girl who hung out with my dude friends popped up i became jealous, nervous, and angry. so i'd side with them and look for ways to discredit her, just because i was scared that if there were TWO girls who were cool, then one would have to be eliminated, and it might be me.
but there was always this space in me where i wanted conversations i couldn't have with my dude friends, a type of understanding that just couldn't exist between a dick-holder and myself. then, once i started reading some books about feminism, i realized that maybe i had a lot more in common with other girls that i thought. and then, at age 18, i started meeting other girls. it was amazing. so much "WOAH you KNOW what i'm talking about?? really???"
and since then i've tried to make a real effort to meet other girls, because i feel like the friendships i form with them are, in some ways, so much deeper than can be formed with my guy friends. and it's nice to talk about feritility cycles and what kind of pad you use and girly things like peeing sitting down. hahaha
i think that it's really hard being a girl who'd a dedicated member of the hardcore community, and vegan, straight edge, and whatever else. the older i get, and i'm sure you know what i'm talking about, the more immersed in my culture and lifestyle i become (naturally), but also the harder for me to be able to even hold a conversation with a girl OUTSIDE of what i'm into. and, since there are so few girls like us around, it's pretty understanable that we don't have a shitload of femayle friends.
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