To elaborate on what K was saying, I think you have a few options here. 1) My personal favorite, you can disappear Kaiser Sose style and never ever, not even if she nods in your direction on campus, speak to her again. Period end of story. The problem with this choice is two-fold. First you may be misinterpreting or misunderstanding her motives for not calling you and if you bounce you run the risk of abandoning something that could potentially be great. Second, if you do bounce are you emotionally ready to abandon this "relationship" and more importantly abandon the pussy? 2) Ignore everything that has happened so far, give her the benefit of the doubt and just pick up where you left off without a word. This scenario also has some problems associated with it. You could potentially get hurt if she is in fact fucking some other dude(s) and if you ignore her actions of late and let things go back to normal it could get messy. Or, knowing you as I do, going back to normal and pretending she didn't ignore you for a few weeks is going to eat at you and eat at you and eat at you. YOu will begin concoting all these images of her sucking 3 dicks a night and getting gang banged in the shower. Eventually you will explode with curiosity and uncertainty and when you ask her point blank what happened the truth could crush your little soul especially if a month or two or three has passed and you have managed to catch feelings for this chick. 3) Option 3 is my own personal brand of torture. Granted, my selection would probably be number one every time because it not only has potential to hurt them it also allows you to make a clean getaway with no further injury or complication. But, option 3 is a bit more sophisticated as it pertains to inflicting pain and getting revenge and thats why I like it :) For option 3, you must play the role. You pretend you are the coolest guy in the world and that her not calling you for a week or two is no big deal. Then you proceed to be the nicest guy ever. The best damn "boyfriend" she has ever had. A doormat. You make this chick fall in love with you and for your troubles you continue to bang the shit out of her. Then when you have had your fun and are satisfied that she is in fact head over heals you bounce. No break up speech, no dear jane letter you just vanish. Now the risk you run with this particular method of revenge is that you being the little fag that you are might catch feelings for this girl during your rouse. That aside though I think this is an excellent way to get back at her and score one for team "tired of getting shit on by girls." 4) Lastly, and the least fun option, be logical and do what your heart tells you. If you are hurt by her not calling you call her on it, tell her how you feel (yuck) and find out why she didn't call. Then talk it out and decide if you are going to move forward or just abandon the relationship altogether and just hang on to the happy memories. There really are not disadvantages with this one because you get the answers you so sorely need and, if it comes to that, you get out while the getting is good before either of you have too much invested.
I would say go with 1, 2 or 3, only because those are the three that I think have "no expectations." The problem with 4, and this is a newfound problem for me, is that that's what I've been telling myself all these years and I just don't think it's right - my heart can be selfish, irrational, impractical, and worst of all, misguided. I find that generally there are two voices, typically called the heart and the mind, and the heart is this idealistic, romantic voice trying to convince you that if you let it bellow forth then all will be ok and everyone will understand, the mind is telling you that 1) what you are upset over is really not a big deal 2) you don't really need to do anything, you can just be patient and 3) stop talking, start listening.
Usually my heart is telling me to do #3 because it's hurt and my mind is saying "you should know better - either do #1 or #2" depending on how you feel. I think some form of #1, deattachment, is best - again, just my opinion.
1) My personal favorite, you can disappear Kaiser Sose style and never ever, not even if she nods in your direction on campus, speak to her again. Period end of story. The problem with this choice is two-fold. First you may be misinterpreting or misunderstanding her motives for not calling you and if you bounce you run the risk of abandoning something that could potentially be great. Second, if you do bounce are you emotionally ready to abandon this "relationship" and more importantly abandon the pussy?
2) Ignore everything that has happened so far, give her the benefit of the doubt and just pick up where you left off without a word. This scenario also has some problems associated with it. You could potentially get hurt if she is in fact fucking some other dude(s) and if you ignore her actions of late and let things go back to normal it could get messy. Or, knowing you as I do, going back to normal and pretending she didn't ignore you for a few weeks is going to eat at you and eat at you and eat at you. YOu will begin concoting all these images of her sucking 3 dicks a night and getting gang banged in the shower. Eventually you will explode with curiosity and uncertainty and when you ask her point blank what happened the truth could crush your little soul especially if a month or two or three has passed and you have managed to catch feelings for this chick.
3) Option 3 is my own personal brand of torture. Granted, my selection would probably be number one every time because it not only has potential to hurt them it also allows you to make a clean getaway with no further injury or complication. But, option 3 is a bit more sophisticated as it pertains to inflicting pain and getting revenge and thats why I like it :) For option 3, you must play the role. You pretend you are the coolest guy in the world and that her not calling you for a week or two is no big deal. Then you proceed to be the nicest guy ever. The best damn "boyfriend" she has ever had. A doormat. You make this chick fall in love with you and for your troubles you continue to bang the shit out of her. Then when you have had your fun and are satisfied that she is in fact head over heals you bounce. No break up speech, no dear jane letter you just vanish. Now the risk you run with this particular method of revenge is that you being the little fag that you are might catch feelings for this girl during your rouse. That aside though I think this is an excellent way to get back at her and score one for team "tired of getting shit on by girls."
4) Lastly, and the least fun option, be logical and do what your heart tells you. If you are hurt by her not calling you call her on it, tell her how you feel (yuck) and find out why she didn't call. Then talk it out and decide if you are going to move forward or just abandon the relationship altogether and just hang on to the happy memories. There really are not disadvantages with this one because you get the answers you so sorely need and, if it comes to that, you get out while the getting is good before either of you have too much invested.
Choose wisely my young Padawan!
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Usually my heart is telling me to do #3 because it's hurt and my mind is saying "you should know better - either do #1 or #2" depending on how you feel. I think some form of #1, deattachment, is best - again, just my opinion.
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