WTF Are People Thinking????

[xanadutoo]

Last night my brother who lives in Europe called me to tell me he and his wife are coming to San Francisco to visit me this summer. Great! I love my brother (he's the oldest of seven sons - I'm number 3). He has lived in Europe for 45 years so it's a treat whenever I get to see him

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You are in the right, they are in the wrong.

[marstokyo]

(I'm still on dial up so this may conk out at any moment but I'd like to answer this, as it's right up *Miss Manner's* alley!)

Your brothers have erred and you must correct them. Possibly because they haven't seen you in awhile they still think of you as a couple with your ex-wife. I can understand that mistake but it's up to you to inform them that YOU do not feel comfortable in a group family type gathering with an EX-member of your family--namely your EX-Wife! If they would like to visit with her on their own that's their choice to make, but make sure they understand you'd like to be left out of that.

BTW, I assume you're not remarried, but what if you were? Would your new wife have to endure a family gathering with your ex-wife? That would be most disagreeable no matter how amicable the divorce.

You've moved on--your brothers need to get that.

Re: You are in the right, they are in the wrong.

[xanadutoo]

LOL I told him last night I was not going to do this. My ex and I are on amicable grounds but, good Lord! People just do NOT think.

Two friends and I are going to see a play in a couple of weeks. One of them asked if I wanted to invite my ex-girlfriend? LOL I said, not just no, but, Hell no! She said, "Oh, I wasn't thinking..." Duh!

I guess there are people who freely socialize with their exes but I'm not one of them. :-)

Re: You are in the right, they are in the wrong.

[morphogenesis]

Me, neither. I don't have any contact with any of the women with whom I've had relationships in the past. Of course, I'm in the 21st year with the current flame, which probably explains a lot.

[hopefoot]

I'm guessing that it's a rhetorical question and I can't say why the first one asked, but the second one probably assumed you'd be into it because you didn't say no to the first one. Or something.

[xanadutoo]

That's a darned good guess. But, my brother last night had no idea my other brother had done so. I told him about the other incident last night and he was surprised. He had no problem scratching the plan but I cannot for the life of me understand what would make anyone even THINK of it. I cannot even imagine suggesting such a thing to people.

Your guess is in the running, though. You'll love my brother, his wife and my ex. :-)

[octopus_garden]

Well good grief, talk about insensitive and awkward?

I'd state in NO uncertain terms that you love them to death but this re-union ain't happening, and what were they thinking when they forgot to consult you? I mean there is a two letter difference between insult and consult.

I'd stick to my guns, and if I'm the big winner, you can give my prize to charity. I've had all the travel I want for the immediate future.

[xanadutoo]

LOL I did exactly as you suggested. I was flabbergasted that he would suggest it. After the first brother pulled the stunt several years ago (I had no idea it was happening, they thought it would be a nice surprise LOL Well, it was a surprise, but not a nice one) I thought people would have enough sense... People never cease to amaze me.

BTW, just in case you win, what's your preferred charity?

[pixiespage]

my answer to the question: some men like to stand on the shoulders of giants! ... well, at least they fuck you in the drive thru.

[xanadutoo]

You are a goddess. :-)

[pixiespage]

*nods* i do what i can... my impression of Joe Pesci (sp?) is pretty good. you should hear my impression of the guy in Hannibal that drinks through a straw!

[xanadutoo]

You are, indeed, a multi-talented woman!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are a Renaissance woman if I've ever met one. :-)

[pixiespage]

btw, if i win, FUCK CHARITY... GIMME GIMME GIMME

[xanadutoo]

LOL that just launched you into first place by a huge margin. You know how to make me happy. :-)