whatever happened to being better human beings than we are?
was doing some ss stuff when i came across this.
would be a good one if i have to deal with issues like discrimination in class next time.
though i dont think moe would actually want a teacher to discuss homosexuality in class.
i once dated a man, no wait, scratch that, a BOY, who was rather homophobic.
there was once, when i was out with michelle and ming boon, when i saw this pair of guys walking in front of us. everything was normal, until i saw one of them touch the other's butt. and i froze and went OMG WTH!
and then, i stopped for a moment. well, mainly because of how mich n boons kind of panicked when i freaked out, but also because of the guilt that coursed through me.
i'm fine with lesbianism.
and i think the girls get away with homosexuality much easier than the boys do.
girls could go everywhere together, hold hands, cuddle, and basically be touchy feely and noone is really bothered by it.
moreover, there are also a variation of lesbian couples, where one of them dresses and acts like a boy, so they would just appear to be like a normal couple being overly affectionate in public.
the boys, they would only garner plently of openly disgusted stares if they do that.
which made me really guilty.
why is it that i react so differently to a gay couple than to a lesbian couple?
when the gay couple obviously have it so much more tougher for them.
definitely no touchy feely in public. obviously no hand holding in public either.
and i just find it so heartbreaking that you cannot hold the hand of someone you love openly, because you will be discriminated by the
public.
so i reflected, and decided that the next time i do encounter a gay couple, no more shocked looks at them.
and then, on a few dates with the boy i dated, we bumped into some gay couples every now and then.
i thought that they were quite sweet actually. some of them.
it's love. gender shouldnt make a difference.
they didnt choose to love only the people of the same gender.
most of them didnt.
so yeah, i thought that they were quite sweet, but the boy i dated was freaking out and constantly lamenting how gross and disgusting they
were.even after i told him how i personally view gay couples.
but then again. males have much more stake in this, evolutionally. they cannot appear to be homosexual even to the tiniest extent, as it would ruin their chances of procreating.
good and sensible females would not consider a homosexual. so men might have evolved to be slightly more homophobic than women.
but that doesnt mean that i didnt snap at him after a while.
get over it.
they didnt choose to be homosexual, so stop discriminating them!
anw, idk why am i doing this when i have tons of deadlines to meet.
just found this article rather heartbreaking.
Letter to the Editor
by Sharon Underwood, Sunday, April 30, 2000
from the Valley News (White River Junction, VT/Hanover, NH)
As the mother of a gay son, I've seen firsthand how cruel and misguided people can be.
Many letters have been sent to the Valley News concerning the homosexual menace in Vermont. I am the mother of a gay son and I've taken enough from you good people.
I'm tired of your foolish rhetoric about the "homosexual agenda" and your allegations that accepting homosexuality is the same thing as advocating sex with children. You are cruel and ignorant. You have been robbing me of the joys of motherhood ever since my children were tiny.
My firstborn son started suffering at the hands of the moral little thugs from your moral, upright families from the time he was in the first grade. He was physically and verbally abused from first grade straight through high school because he was perceived to be gay.
He never professed to be gay or had any association with anything gay, but he had the misfortune not to walk or have gestures like the other boys. He was called "fag" incessantly, starting when he was 6.
In high school, while your children were doing what kids that age should be doing, mine labored over a suicide note, drafting and redrafting it to be sure his family knew how much he loved them. My sobbing 17-year-old tore the heart out of me as he choked out that he just couldn't bear to continue living any longer, that he didn't want to be gay and that he couldn't face a life without dignity.
You have the audacity to talk about protecting families and children from the homosexual menace, while you yourselves tear apart families
and drive children to despair. I don't know why my son is gay, but I do know that God didn't put him, and millions like him, on this Earth to give you someone to abuse. God gave you brains so that you could think, and it's about time you started doing that.
At the core of all your misguided beliefs is the belief that this could never happen to you, that there is some kind of subculture out there that people have chosen to join. The fact is that if it can happen to my family, it can happen to yours, and you won't get to choose. Whether it is genetic or whether something occurs during a critical time of fetal development, I don't know. I can only tell you with an absolute certainty that it is inborn.
If you want to tout your own morality, you'd best come up with something more substantive than your heterosexuality. You did nothing to earn it; it was given to you. If you disagree, I would be interested in hearing your story, because my own heterosexuality was a blessing I received with no effort whatsoever on my part. It is so woven into the very soul of me that nothing could ever change it. For those of you who reduce sexual orientation to a simple choice, a character issue, a bad habit or something that can be changed by a 10-step program, I'm puzzled. Are you saying that your own sexual orientation is nothing more than something you have chosen, that you could change it at will? If that's not the case, then why would you suggest that someone else can?
A popular theme in your letters is that Vermont has been infiltrated by outsiders. Both sides of my family have lived in Vermont for generations. I am heart and soul a Vermonter, so I'll thank you to stop saying that you are speaking for "true Vermonters."
You invoke the memory of the brave people who have fought on the battlefield for this great country, saying that they didn't give their lives so that the "homosexual agenda "could tear down the principles they died defending. My 83-year-old father fought in some of the most horrific battles of World War II, was wounded and awarded the Purple Heart.
He shakes his head in sadness at the life his grandson has had to live. He says he fought alongside homosexuals in those battles, that they did their part and bothered no one. One of his best friends in the service was gay, and he never knew it until the end, and when he did find out, it mattered not at all. That wasn't the measure of the man.
You religious folk just can't bear the thought that as my son emerges from the hell that was his childhood he might like to find a lifelong
companion and have a measure of happiness. It offends your sensibilities hat he should request the right to visit that companion in the hospital, to make medical decisions for him or to benefit from tax laws governing inheritance.
How dare he? you say. These outrageous requests would threaten the very existence of your family, would undermine the sanctity of marriage.
You use religion to abdicate your responsibility to be thinking human beings. There are vast numbers of religious people who find your attitudes repugnant. God is not for the privileged majority, and God knows my son has committed no sin.
The deep-thinking author of a letter to the April 12 Valley News who lectures about homosexual sin and tells us about "those of us who have been blessed with the benefits of a religious upbringing" asks: "What ever happened to the idea of striving...to be better human beings than we are?"
Indeed, sir, what ever happened to that?