Self-Mutalation
Why is it so hard for people to accept happiness?
I was watching an episode of xxxholic and a woman comes to the shop saying that she does things he knows she shouldn't and ruins her own life and wants to stop it. However she has been unable to. The fact of the matter is that she is unable to accept happiness because happiness comes with a price.
I've seen this happen before. People say they will fail if they try and that it's worthless to even bother. So the end result is of course that they failed, just like they expected except it happened for a different reason. Failing from not trying is much worse than failing from trying because you cheated yourself out of that chance of being happy, especially considering you didn't know the end result of trying.
Sometimes people reject a promotion they feel they don't deserve or will stop themselves from accepting something they feel they are unworthy of having. It partially comes from that if they know they do well there will be more pressure to continue to do well and they don't want to take on anything else, without even realizing it, and even if no more pressure will be given to them.
Sometimes they try and avoid happiness all together, but for different reasons.
1) Everything comes with a price,even happiness. If something terrible happens you can be certain that something good will happen, however, if something good happens usually something bad will happen. However people try and avoid the good because they feel it won't last, which can be true unless you are extremely lucky and even that is pricy. If they just live being unhappy because if they are use to being unhappy because they did it themselves, they can be content with it instead of taking the chance of becoming happy and possibly being even more unhappy than they were before.
2) Another is they feel they don't deserve to be happy. Some people feel they only hurt others who get close to them so they sabotage that relationship in some way and all they see if that they are unhappy. They will come to believe that because they have hurt people they don't deserve to be happy because things come with a price. However it is never stated how the bad will come about. You could be with someone for years and be happy, but something bad could happen, like an accident or bad financial problems, but not even directly relating to what makes you happy.
3) Some people feel that those who happy are naive and don't see reality. But reality is a state of mine, a perspective you feel. There is nothing set in stone that says reality is good or bad. One thing can be certain, and that is that there is both an equal amount of good and bad in the world. However which side you choose to see is up to you. You are responsible for your own happiness and it's your own business. No one can be burdened with the responsibility of making you happy, you have to do it all on your own but if you choose to deny it then that's your fault and you can't blame anyone else.
What are my view points on the reasons I stated? well here you go
1) I know bad things can happen. I lived for so long under harsh conditions over the past year (a very big year I will say) and things were slim and I just felt like giving up. However I wanted to do well in school and not give up because I wanted to be happy.So I stuck it out and ended up hiding what was really going on and how sad I really was and then the day where I was doing what it would take to change my future was the day it actually happened. I was determined to stay in this school no matter what it took and someone granted my wish and gave me the chance to obtain it. I took it and was glad I did. In exchange for the months of being locked in a room and feeling alone, having little money and relying on others for food I got a nice room and a bed to sleep in, a job that I love and couldn't be happier about, asource of food I could count on and abunch of friends whom I couldn't be happier about and now three months to just relax. What will happen next depends on me and the choices I choose to make and I don't think any big ones will come about for a while now that I've paid my debt for making the choice to come here and now I'm living how I was before that choice.
2) I feel everyone should be happy and do whatever it takes to be happy. If being happy means doing a lot of work and staying up late to do it then I'm willing to take that chance. If it means working on papers late or finishing paintings or drawings into the middle of the night then so be it. I want to be happy and am not afraid of it and who knows, the bad could be those late nights but I know in the end I'll be rewarded with a nice picture, praise from others, knowledge about the craft and the ability to take control of my life. Taking control can be scary and a lot of work but the end result is worth it.
3) I do see a lot of good in the world because I've met a lot of nice people and I can't deny kindess and lie to myself by saying no one cares. I know so many people who care about me and others around them and even if a lot of people don't care about any one other than themself than they can do that and say the world sucks but life is what you make it. You're never bound to do anything you don't want or follow the rules of others, it's just you have to know the consequences of your actions. I didn't in making a big decision and I paid for it but now I learned how to look at the end result of something big and what it could cost me. I could've made a mistake that would've ended up me losing someone close to me, but once I thought for a minute what I wanted in my life I stopped and glad I did because I would've ended up paying a heavy price but it would've been my fault. Even if it made me really happy I would've also have had to live with my mistake.
To achieve something you must have sincerity and action. If you truly want to be happy you must take the steps to be happy. However if you make an empty promise to yourself then you will fail. You can pretend to change or do so for a little while but you will inevitably revert to what you were before. That's why whenever I make a decision I think about what I really want and would could make it possible and what could ruin it and then decide the course of action.
Nutshell version:
I was watching an episode of xxxholic and a woman comes to the shop saying that she does things he knows she shouldn't and ruins her own life and wants to stop it. However she has been unable to. The fact of the matter is that she is unable to accept happiness because happiness comes with a price.
I've seen this happen before. People say they will fail if they try and that it's worthless to even bother. So the end result is of course that they failed, just like they expected except it happened for a different reason. Failing from not trying is much worse than failing from trying because you cheated yourself out of that chance of being happy, especially considering you didn't know the end result of trying.
Sometimes people reject a promotion they feel they don't deserve or will stop themselves from accepting something they feel they are unworthy of having. It partially comes from that if they know they do well there will be more pressure to continue to do well and they don't want to take on anything else, without even realizing it, and even if no more pressure will be given to them.
Sometimes they try and avoid happiness all together, but for different reasons.
1) Everything comes with a price,even happiness. If something terrible happens you can be certain that something good will happen, however, if something good happens usually something bad will happen. However people try and avoid the good because they feel it won't last, which can be true unless you are extremely lucky and even that is pricy. If they just live being unhappy because if they are use to being unhappy because they did it themselves, they can be content with it instead of taking the chance of becoming happy and possibly being even more unhappy than they were before.
2) Another is they feel they don't deserve to be happy. Some people feel they only hurt others who get close to them so they sabotage that relationship in some way and all they see if that they are unhappy. They will come to believe that because they have hurt people they don't deserve to be happy because things come with a price. However it is never stated how the bad will come about. You could be with someone for years and be happy, but something bad could happen, like an accident or bad financial problems, but not even directly relating to what makes you happy.
3) Some people feel that those who happy are naive and don't see reality. But reality is a state of mine, a perspective you feel. There is nothing set in stone that says reality is good or bad. One thing can be certain, and that is that there is both an equal amount of good and bad in the world. However which side you choose to see is up to you. You are responsible for your own happiness and it's your own business. No one can be burdened with the responsibility of making you happy, you have to do it all on your own but if you choose to deny it then that's your fault and you can't blame anyone else.
What are my view points on the reasons I stated? well here you go
1) I know bad things can happen. I lived for so long under harsh conditions over the past year (a very big year I will say) and things were slim and I just felt like giving up. However I wanted to do well in school and not give up because I wanted to be happy.So I stuck it out and ended up hiding what was really going on and how sad I really was and then the day where I was doing what it would take to change my future was the day it actually happened. I was determined to stay in this school no matter what it took and someone granted my wish and gave me the chance to obtain it. I took it and was glad I did. In exchange for the months of being locked in a room and feeling alone, having little money and relying on others for food I got a nice room and a bed to sleep in, a job that I love and couldn't be happier about, asource of food I could count on and abunch of friends whom I couldn't be happier about and now three months to just relax. What will happen next depends on me and the choices I choose to make and I don't think any big ones will come about for a while now that I've paid my debt for making the choice to come here and now I'm living how I was before that choice.
2) I feel everyone should be happy and do whatever it takes to be happy. If being happy means doing a lot of work and staying up late to do it then I'm willing to take that chance. If it means working on papers late or finishing paintings or drawings into the middle of the night then so be it. I want to be happy and am not afraid of it and who knows, the bad could be those late nights but I know in the end I'll be rewarded with a nice picture, praise from others, knowledge about the craft and the ability to take control of my life. Taking control can be scary and a lot of work but the end result is worth it.
3) I do see a lot of good in the world because I've met a lot of nice people and I can't deny kindess and lie to myself by saying no one cares. I know so many people who care about me and others around them and even if a lot of people don't care about any one other than themself than they can do that and say the world sucks but life is what you make it. You're never bound to do anything you don't want or follow the rules of others, it's just you have to know the consequences of your actions. I didn't in making a big decision and I paid for it but now I learned how to look at the end result of something big and what it could cost me. I could've made a mistake that would've ended up me losing someone close to me, but once I thought for a minute what I wanted in my life I stopped and glad I did because I would've ended up paying a heavy price but it would've been my fault. Even if it made me really happy I would've also have had to live with my mistake.
To achieve something you must have sincerity and action. If you truly want to be happy you must take the steps to be happy. However if you make an empty promise to yourself then you will fail. You can pretend to change or do so for a little while but you will inevitably revert to what you were before. That's why whenever I make a decision I think about what I really want and would could make it possible and what could ruin it and then decide the course of action.
Nutshell version:
- Don't ever think you don't deserve to be happy.
- Don't push it away and just enjoy it and even if bad things happen work through them, don't ignore them, and you'll be happy.
- This life is yours for the choosing. Choose to be happy and know that it can be yours.
- Whethere you choose to happy or unhappy is your choice, just know that if you are sincere about either path and take the actions to either smile or cry then it's nobody else's fault but your own. Take responsibility for your own life and don't rely on others to make it happy for you or decide your own life.