I know why some of the reasons SL is so addictive...
I've met some remarkable folks in Second Life. Ones that are reshaping the way I think, causing me to see things in perhaps, a different light. One an aspiring screenwriter, with aspirations of urban planning and architecture, got me to thinking about a question that he asked me recently, to which I had no immediate response. "What gets Woulfcat up in the morning?" Real life application here. Some answers I came up with after moments went by, but afterwards not really satisfied with what I said. I need to think on it more.
Jade's Jazz Lounge, which is turning out to be the life's equivalent of a crossroads, which path do I take? The path I've always known, safe, without risks or the one where I take a chance, involving myself in possible turmoil, but maybe possible joy and enthusiasm, perhaps a more satisfactory goal in mind, reinventing myself. I don't want to get to my 70's, look back and say, "I've could've made more a difference in my life to be happy" because I was lazy about it. Doing this on your own is not easy. But I have to start somewhere.
This applies to meeting people there. Everyone has an agenda of some sort, hoping to meet that particular someone that tickles their fancy. Or in their stage of life, where a friend is the best thing they need. Someone to listen, someone with sharp wit and banter that plays off of their own.
Someone to laugh at their silly jokes, someone who will forgive errors in judgement, and see perhaps the friendship they are forging is much more valuable than any transgression that have passed between them. Perhaps the person was there when they needed a friend the most. That does count for something.
Quality time is more satisfying to me than cybersex, cybersex is a time waster. I'm sorry, but I'd rather have real life over that. That's just me. Someone actually "tried" to do that with me late night, the conversation was fine until the guy forced it into the words of cybersex. Without saying a word, I logged off. I was in a calm, peaceful state of mind and wanted to stay there. I don't regret what I did, but I know I will have to answer to that person, maybe. Online it's easy. You're not looking them straight in the eye where they could probably figure out your body language easily. It's all in the chat, how you say it and what you say. Dealbreaker depending on that person's outlook on life or dealmaker. I just met the guy, so I'm not even worried about whether he'll defriend me. I haven't had any conversations with him that were mind worthy. His loss I think.
But last night, I spent quality time with Y, Q and D. I did spend a little bit of time with another friend, someone who I know in RL, but conversation was on sex. I just sat there on a pose ball in a hot tub until I started getting bored and left, excusing myself by saying I had a dance floor calling out to me. :)
Back to the quality time, which was a span of a few hours for each, Y and I had met about a month ago or more. He and I get along so well, we can talk about anything, while we are dancing at Jade's, listening to Ray Confer, the Blues Preacher. The more we hang out, the happier I am each time. Only one thing stopping us from RL to become friends and hang out, he's married. Understanding that, I am forging a platonic friendship, perhaps he's filling a void missing in my friends, or a wonderful addition to my friends. At any rate, he's a keeper already.
Q I saw afterwards, timing seem to be on my side last night. He and I hung out at Jade's for awhile, then he had some undersea dance to go to dressed as Spongebob initially, but switched to Aquaman. Soon he got bored with the whole thing, let me know, I joined him. I asked him how it was now. He said it was better now that I was here. :) Afterwards, we went over to Piranha, where he declared to me that this was the best time in his SL life and that he was glad that I was a part of it. :) We flirted with each other verbally, that was fun.
I've known Q in SL for about 6 months if not longer. At first, I would hang out with him, but sometimes, he had other friends to hang out with, but over time, I noticed that we were spending more and more time together. At times, conversation drags, but I know his mind is working in a million different directions, he's a manager for a IT company. Very demanding, when he tells me of him getting 4 hours of sleep. I don't know how he does it. And I hope that he can continue. I'm guessing SL so he can break away from RL for a bit. That is his social life. He's referred to me as his "young sweetie best friend" even after finding out I was older than him. He's sensible enough to know when to break away from SL, so he doesn't deprive himself of needed rest. He has a German Shepherd by the name of Baron, the dog is being trained for police work. He goes to dog shows for that every once in awhile. If he has a social life in RL, I don't know if it exists, He either tells me about his job, his dog, or the movies that he's seeing at home. He is also a man who can probably be a chef in a restaurant, when he describes the dishes he makes for himself, my tongue is salivating over and over again, wanting a taste so badly. Tease!
D, who I met up after spending time in the proverbial hot tub, I met over a few months ago. He recently had a really bad accident for which he feels really stupid for not paying attention when he should have, because he has been in pain for several months. Doctors keep telling him his bones aren't healing very well if at all, I wonder. SL I think is medicine for the mind, perhaps that's where it needs to start. Hang out with someone who has alot of strife going in his life, and just keep telling him that you value the time you have together and you think he is wonderful, because he is. We went dancing at Phat's, so even though he loved the way I dressed, I seem to have wonderful fashion sense on SL...Phat's is gown/tux dance place. Although I noticed after arriving in said outfits, I saw two couples in casual outfits befitting a blues club. Oh well. What mattered was the company I was keeping. He's smart and witty, he banters along with me too, time flows by all too swiftly, you become immersed conversation wise with the one you're with. Before too long, he had to go, his "girl" waking up and telling him it was late, and he needed to sleep.
He had recently defriended me, to which I replied in a saved im, "Was it something I did or said, or not something I did or said?" something that would get him thinking, not just "Why did you drop me?" He said he had told me something in im, to which I never replied, thinking I didn't want to be his friend. I think SL had a hand in the glitch. We of course, friended each other back, and when he saw me last night, apologized for what he did. I said, "Don't worry, it's alright" ...and the rest of the evening was splendid indeed.
See you inworld!
Jade's Jazz Lounge, which is turning out to be the life's equivalent of a crossroads, which path do I take? The path I've always known, safe, without risks or the one where I take a chance, involving myself in possible turmoil, but maybe possible joy and enthusiasm, perhaps a more satisfactory goal in mind, reinventing myself. I don't want to get to my 70's, look back and say, "I've could've made more a difference in my life to be happy" because I was lazy about it. Doing this on your own is not easy. But I have to start somewhere.
This applies to meeting people there. Everyone has an agenda of some sort, hoping to meet that particular someone that tickles their fancy. Or in their stage of life, where a friend is the best thing they need. Someone to listen, someone with sharp wit and banter that plays off of their own.
Someone to laugh at their silly jokes, someone who will forgive errors in judgement, and see perhaps the friendship they are forging is much more valuable than any transgression that have passed between them. Perhaps the person was there when they needed a friend the most. That does count for something.
Quality time is more satisfying to me than cybersex, cybersex is a time waster. I'm sorry, but I'd rather have real life over that. That's just me. Someone actually "tried" to do that with me late night, the conversation was fine until the guy forced it into the words of cybersex. Without saying a word, I logged off. I was in a calm, peaceful state of mind and wanted to stay there. I don't regret what I did, but I know I will have to answer to that person, maybe. Online it's easy. You're not looking them straight in the eye where they could probably figure out your body language easily. It's all in the chat, how you say it and what you say. Dealbreaker depending on that person's outlook on life or dealmaker. I just met the guy, so I'm not even worried about whether he'll defriend me. I haven't had any conversations with him that were mind worthy. His loss I think.
But last night, I spent quality time with Y, Q and D. I did spend a little bit of time with another friend, someone who I know in RL, but conversation was on sex. I just sat there on a pose ball in a hot tub until I started getting bored and left, excusing myself by saying I had a dance floor calling out to me. :)
Back to the quality time, which was a span of a few hours for each, Y and I had met about a month ago or more. He and I get along so well, we can talk about anything, while we are dancing at Jade's, listening to Ray Confer, the Blues Preacher. The more we hang out, the happier I am each time. Only one thing stopping us from RL to become friends and hang out, he's married. Understanding that, I am forging a platonic friendship, perhaps he's filling a void missing in my friends, or a wonderful addition to my friends. At any rate, he's a keeper already.
Q I saw afterwards, timing seem to be on my side last night. He and I hung out at Jade's for awhile, then he had some undersea dance to go to dressed as Spongebob initially, but switched to Aquaman. Soon he got bored with the whole thing, let me know, I joined him. I asked him how it was now. He said it was better now that I was here. :) Afterwards, we went over to Piranha, where he declared to me that this was the best time in his SL life and that he was glad that I was a part of it. :) We flirted with each other verbally, that was fun.
I've known Q in SL for about 6 months if not longer. At first, I would hang out with him, but sometimes, he had other friends to hang out with, but over time, I noticed that we were spending more and more time together. At times, conversation drags, but I know his mind is working in a million different directions, he's a manager for a IT company. Very demanding, when he tells me of him getting 4 hours of sleep. I don't know how he does it. And I hope that he can continue. I'm guessing SL so he can break away from RL for a bit. That is his social life. He's referred to me as his "young sweetie best friend" even after finding out I was older than him. He's sensible enough to know when to break away from SL, so he doesn't deprive himself of needed rest. He has a German Shepherd by the name of Baron, the dog is being trained for police work. He goes to dog shows for that every once in awhile. If he has a social life in RL, I don't know if it exists, He either tells me about his job, his dog, or the movies that he's seeing at home. He is also a man who can probably be a chef in a restaurant, when he describes the dishes he makes for himself, my tongue is salivating over and over again, wanting a taste so badly. Tease!
D, who I met up after spending time in the proverbial hot tub, I met over a few months ago. He recently had a really bad accident for which he feels really stupid for not paying attention when he should have, because he has been in pain for several months. Doctors keep telling him his bones aren't healing very well if at all, I wonder. SL I think is medicine for the mind, perhaps that's where it needs to start. Hang out with someone who has alot of strife going in his life, and just keep telling him that you value the time you have together and you think he is wonderful, because he is. We went dancing at Phat's, so even though he loved the way I dressed, I seem to have wonderful fashion sense on SL...Phat's is gown/tux dance place. Although I noticed after arriving in said outfits, I saw two couples in casual outfits befitting a blues club. Oh well. What mattered was the company I was keeping. He's smart and witty, he banters along with me too, time flows by all too swiftly, you become immersed conversation wise with the one you're with. Before too long, he had to go, his "girl" waking up and telling him it was late, and he needed to sleep.
He had recently defriended me, to which I replied in a saved im, "Was it something I did or said, or not something I did or said?" something that would get him thinking, not just "Why did you drop me?" He said he had told me something in im, to which I never replied, thinking I didn't want to be his friend. I think SL had a hand in the glitch. We of course, friended each other back, and when he saw me last night, apologized for what he did. I said, "Don't worry, it's alright" ...and the rest of the evening was splendid indeed.
See you inworld!