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[wolfwoodglomper]

...Jeremie and I live together, and we never see each other. And when we're both here, we don't like cuddle, or spend time together, or whatever. Last weekend was the only time we've spent together. And he always sounds mad at me, or annoyed. If I suggest we have dinner together or something, he won't really say anything about it, and then I'll say

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[ladymango]

Errr, I'm not sure it's a guy thing but you'd think he'd show some interest, you know?
It might be something you two should discuss if it goes on for a while...living together can be hard on a relationship luv <333

I'm always here if things get tough!

[ladypentacles]

Yeah...not good I would say. Sounds like its time for a serious talk.

[onelittlegirl]

you know, me and muh man, (oooo gurrrl), had a similar problem not too long ago. finally i got so worried that i had to have a talk with him. we drove to the top of a parking garage, and talked for hours. i made him tell me what was going on. it turns out, i was the one who was worrying about him too much, and he felt suffocated.since then i have worked on letting him do his thing, and he has worked on letting me know where he is and what is going on.
i am not saying that is your same problem, but a nice good non-aggressive talk is always a good idea.

you going to circle tonight? i am!

[living4angles]

yeah, you should talk with him if it gets too serious and if this situation persists, but i also think that women sometimes are more worried about things that aren't really there (hope this makes sense).

you had a wonderful weekend with him when you both had the small vacation, right? maybe it is a lot of stress right now and the not yet really established routine in your daily lives.

Hi, I'm from Mars!

[missourimarmot]

first off, how long have you guys been living together? are you still measuring it in weeks? okay. this is veryvery normal stuff. in fact, i'd be more surprised if you weren't having trouble like this. (after seven-plus years, i still feel like a beginner all too frequently.)

to some extent, yeah, this is a guy thing. speaking as a guy, the things we tend to hate most are: 1) pressure; 2) feeling trapped; 3) feeling judged; 4) feeling crowded/not having our own space. do you see a pattern developing here? :-)

definitely you guys need to be communicating. i don't know any couple that doesn't have some issues in this area, some room to grow. the trick is how to get both partners' needs met, for both to feel safe and heard and respected.

if you haven't read men are from mars, women are from venus, this might be a good time. i was wary of it myself, thinking it would be nothing but a bunch of trendy nonsense. but it actually makes some interesting points. we tend to give our partner what we would want to receive, not what they really