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...Jeremie and I live together, and we never see each other. And when we're both here, we don't like cuddle, or spend time together, or whatever. Last weekend was the only time we've spent together. And he always sounds mad at me, or annoyed. If I suggest we have dinner together or something, he won't really say anything about it, and then I'll say
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to some extent, yeah, this is a guy thing. speaking as a guy, the things we tend to hate most are: 1) pressure; 2) feeling trapped; 3) feeling judged; 4) feeling crowded/not having our own space. do you see a pattern developing here? :-)
definitely you guys need to be communicating. i don't know any couple that doesn't have some issues in this area, some room to grow. the trick is how to get both partners' needs met, for both to feel safe and heard and respected.
if you haven't read men are from mars, women are from venus, this might be a good time. i was wary of it myself, thinking it would be nothing but a bunch of trendy nonsense. but it actually makes some interesting points. we tend to give our partner what we would want to receive, not what they really want/need. so women talk more than men are comfortable (because they want their partner to talk to them), and men give a lot more space than women want (because that's what they would want).
Jeremy needs to tell you what's going on with him, yes; but you need to do what you can to make a safe space for him to do so. and for your sake, he should understand that you need to be heard. even if he can't talk at a given moment, even if he needs to have a lot of space for a while, he can at least let you know that much, let you know that he'll be back, that he will check in before too long. it's about both partners working together to make sure as many of each person's needs get met as possible.
i hope something in all this rambling is of some use to you.
good luck...
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