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This was posted by Pants U Man and I fully agree with ALL of it and wanted to put it here for everyone who didn't read hers to see.
"Recently a topic of discussion has come up between myself and some close friends. Polyamorous relationships. Why do people have them? Why is it so very popular in our extended circle of friends?
We came to two conclusions.
1. Those who do it well have primaries. Both parties are honest with their partner/s. Rules are laid down and no one is in the dark as to what is going on. I've known couples who have been quite successful being poly. A few things I've noticed are that both partners are completely devoted to the other and they are each others main priorities. I've also noticed that primaries to have a say in who the other sees . There are many aspects to different successful relationships but those are the main points we noted.
2. Everyone else uses the title Poly to sleep around/ find a loophole out of cheating/ not to commit. Basically the people who don't want relationships and who try to convince others that they do. Unfortunately we've noticed this is more often the case in the group of people we circulate with.
In only 5 years of being around an enormous amount of poly couples I alone have witnessed a pass/fail rate that leans heavily on the negative. I must say that in my case that hasn't made a great impression on me.
I leave this topic open to discussion, I would love to hear other opinions and arguments either for or against.
I am sorry in advance if I have offended anyone, feel free to message me privately if I have."
"Recently a topic of discussion has come up between myself and some close friends. Polyamorous relationships. Why do people have them? Why is it so very popular in our extended circle of friends?
We came to two conclusions.
1. Those who do it well have primaries. Both parties are honest with their partner/s. Rules are laid down and no one is in the dark as to what is going on. I've known couples who have been quite successful being poly. A few things I've noticed are that both partners are completely devoted to the other and they are each others main priorities. I've also noticed that primaries to have a say in who the other sees . There are many aspects to different successful relationships but those are the main points we noted.
2. Everyone else uses the title Poly to sleep around/ find a loophole out of cheating/ not to commit. Basically the people who don't want relationships and who try to convince others that they do. Unfortunately we've noticed this is more often the case in the group of people we circulate with.
In only 5 years of being around an enormous amount of poly couples I alone have witnessed a pass/fail rate that leans heavily on the negative. I must say that in my case that hasn't made a great impression on me.
I leave this topic open to discussion, I would love to hear other opinions and arguments either for or against.
I am sorry in advance if I have offended anyone, feel free to message me privately if I have."