...you have no power over me

[witchdollie]

Kindergoth's school pictures came. This is something I forgot to mention. Or did I mention it? I don't remember... It's a bit funny. She will pose and smile for me but in her school pics she is staring off into nothingness. And her class picture, all the teachers were smiling but all the kids just looked on vacantly

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[witchdollie]

Thank you so much. Most of the people I know are really close to their families and they just can't fathom having to deal with stuff like this.

I just blocked my mother from sending me email.. A HUGE step in cutting out the people in my life who ultimately do nothing but hurt me. I don't know what will happen now. Do people who are blocked get their emails kicked back to them, saying that they have been blocked? Part of me hopes so because I want her to know I have had it. Yet that same part of me is worried that is the way things work because I know this will probably instigate more family issues. I'm finding it really hard to be strong and gain my independence from them in this sense.

[rynresa]

i completely understand. i don't have relationship with my dad. he seems to play the "victim" in it to other people, but they don't know the truth, and i've no desire to play the whole thing out for them. my mil will ask me at christmas time if i've heard from him, but other than that, she doesn't even ask. i know that eventually the boy will ask about him, and i will say the most vague, and nice things i can about him, without lying, so that he doesn't feel as if he's a bad person, or that i am, just because we are related to him. if he acted like a decent adult this wouldn't be an issue, but it is what it is, and that's it.

[witchdollie]

parental figures are odd creatures.

I have no idea what i will say to kindergoth when she starts asking. :/

[rynresa]

i just had to email my father yesterday for my mom, and to have him think it's ok to just send notes every now and again irks me. i'd rather not deal with him, but i have to play nice so he doesn't screw over my mom with the money he sends.

i've just decided that one day the boy will have to know the truth because he'll want to know why his other grandfather isn't in his life, but until he's old enough i'll only tell him the few good things i can think of. i don't want to hurt the boy just to throw daggers at my dad.

[victoirev]

Bah, indeed, m'lady... I surely do relate. *Hugs you tightly* &hearts

[justdes]

Ahem. None of this, by my reckoning, is *any* of MIL's business. I get that she may think she's doing the right thing for you, but it all seems to be be hurting you. Secondly, even though your ties with your bio-family are strained at best, you also have the rest of us, your chosen family, that love you very much and support you. You are oh so very loved!

[witchdollie]

You are awesome! *hugs* I just want you to know that.

[booksaremyhabit]

what does "sort of" mean?
that's just wrong...I'm sorry your MIL doesn't seem to "get it"

[witchdollie]

I don't know.. I think it was her way of sneaking in a painful jab at me. It worked. But I didn't let her know it worked....