Funny that you mention it, I've been thinking somewhere along those lines lately, too. I'm amazed to watch couples that have been together for years, loved each other, based their whole lives upon one another, and then suddenly they split up and the unconditional love turns into this foul hatred.
I think I believe that, if you truly love someone, you can't ever hate them or you never loved them in the first place. I can see not being "in love" with them to a degree, but going from that place of love to a place of hatred just doesn't make sense in my mind.
I'd imagine you're spot on with your assessment. I'd also imagine it's probably a little bit of both. I just don't think you can hate someone you ever truly loved. I do think, though, that you could put on an air of hatred to mask your pain, and try and convince yourself that life is better without them.
(it's taken me like an hour and a half to get this written. okay.. maybe only an hour)
I don't know about the "you can't ever hate them or you never loved them in the first place" idea. I think it's possible to truly love someone but have that love shattered by a certain act or series of acts causing a breakup. Like say you're in a monogamous relationship, end up with and STD, and realize that your boyfriend/girlfriend has been having random unprotected sex with other people. You can go from love to hate pretty quickly.
That seems to me, though, to mean that the "love" they felt for that person wasn't informed. They loved something that wasn't truly how that person was, and when they found out how that person truly was, it opened their eyes.
I just think REAL love doesn't go away. Assuming, of course, you loved the real person.
I think your clarification states my idea perfectly...and is the next step in the earlier thought...
..and that's exactly what I mean. Whatever the reason for it, I think that when we go from love or like to hate or dislike...I think many times, it's from that un-informed situation
I think I believe that, if you truly love someone, you can't ever hate them or you never loved them in the first place. I can see not being "in love" with them to a degree, but going from that place of love to a place of hatred just doesn't make sense in my mind.
I'd imagine you're spot on with your assessment. I'd also imagine it's probably a little bit of both. I just don't think you can hate someone you ever truly loved. I do think, though, that you could put on an air of hatred to mask your pain, and try and convince yourself that life is better without them.
(it's taken me like an hour and a half to get this written. okay.. maybe only an hour)
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good points.
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That seems to me, though, to mean that the "love" they felt for that person wasn't informed. They loved something that wasn't truly how that person was, and when they found out how that person truly was, it opened their eyes.
I just think REAL love doesn't go away. Assuming, of course, you loved the real person.
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..and that's exactly what I mean. Whatever the reason for it, I think that when we go from love or like to hate or dislike...I think many times, it's from that un-informed situation
...and of course, I'd be pissed too!
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