Common to All
Again, social conservatives, just skip this entry and forgo giving yourself an ulcer.
It is my opinion that everyone is bisexual. Before you throw your hands up in the air and condemn me, read what I have to say. There are definitely two kinds of relationships between people, those of lust and those of love. I mean lust in the sense of pure instant physical attraction. I think very few people are bisexual in this manner. In other words, when you walk through a crowd, you definitely pick out members of one sex and for the most part or entirely overlook the other. I feel people are generally set in this kind of orientation.
But the other type of relationship between people is that of love. Love can develop out of a relationship that began as lust, and I think a good portion of relationships do in fact begin this way. But love can also develop out of friendships. And sometimes those attachments can become so close and so comfortable that that love will extend to the physical.
What I'm saying is, I think that for every person there is a circumstance in which you could have a homoerotic (or heteroerotic for homosexuals) experience and enjoy it, or at least have no regrets. For most people, not out of lust, but out of trust and comfort with a person. You have such a deep emotional connection that you push you inhibitions aside, can consider exploring a physical relationship, and accept it.
What I also find interesting is that women seem more willing to agree with this viewpoint than men. I tend to think it's more societal than instinctual. But I know several women who had at least a limited physical relationship with a female friend and had no regrets, even if afterwards she stayed with men. For these women, it was about sharing something with the other person, an appreciation for everything about who they were. And also, they were better able to relate to other women and so felt more comfortable. Part of it, I think, is that men are less willing to trust each other, and so these kinds of feelings are less likely to develop.
And aside from emotional trust and understanding, there is also this to consider: heterosexuals experience the excitement of getting to know something foreign, both in terms of understanding and pleasing the other partner. Homosexuals, on the other hand, have the same anatomy and are thus more likely to be able to please each other as well as see eye-to-eye. Both sides have advantages. And I think that for every person, there is a situation in which they will recognize this and be able to enjoy the fact without regretting it.
It is my opinion that everyone is bisexual. Before you throw your hands up in the air and condemn me, read what I have to say. There are definitely two kinds of relationships between people, those of lust and those of love. I mean lust in the sense of pure instant physical attraction. I think very few people are bisexual in this manner. In other words, when you walk through a crowd, you definitely pick out members of one sex and for the most part or entirely overlook the other. I feel people are generally set in this kind of orientation.
But the other type of relationship between people is that of love. Love can develop out of a relationship that began as lust, and I think a good portion of relationships do in fact begin this way. But love can also develop out of friendships. And sometimes those attachments can become so close and so comfortable that that love will extend to the physical.
What I'm saying is, I think that for every person there is a circumstance in which you could have a homoerotic (or heteroerotic for homosexuals) experience and enjoy it, or at least have no regrets. For most people, not out of lust, but out of trust and comfort with a person. You have such a deep emotional connection that you push you inhibitions aside, can consider exploring a physical relationship, and accept it.
What I also find interesting is that women seem more willing to agree with this viewpoint than men. I tend to think it's more societal than instinctual. But I know several women who had at least a limited physical relationship with a female friend and had no regrets, even if afterwards she stayed with men. For these women, it was about sharing something with the other person, an appreciation for everything about who they were. And also, they were better able to relate to other women and so felt more comfortable. Part of it, I think, is that men are less willing to trust each other, and so these kinds of feelings are less likely to develop.
And aside from emotional trust and understanding, there is also this to consider: heterosexuals experience the excitement of getting to know something foreign, both in terms of understanding and pleasing the other partner. Homosexuals, on the other hand, have the same anatomy and are thus more likely to be able to please each other as well as see eye-to-eye. Both sides have advantages. And I think that for every person, there is a situation in which they will recognize this and be able to enjoy the fact without regretting it.