Lovers

[wisdomgiver]

Ok, that last entry was kinda weird and off-topic because I didn't really know what I had in mind when I started to write it. This one, however, will be FUN. The topic: what makes a good lover. WARNING: social conservatives should not read further, or else agree to keep all comments to themselves :cP

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[wisdomgiver]

Well, in the first instance my answer would depend on context. Do I mean that for everyone there's a special someone out there that they will connect with enough to magically become a good lover? No. Oh I think we can find perfect emotional matches alright, but being a good lover is more about your OWN personal attitude. (Though admittedly finding that special someone CAN bring about a change in your personal attitude that will make you into a good lover). You can be a great lover even if your parter is clumsy or uncaring- having them just as involved simply makes it ten times better.

If instead you mean that everyone can be a good lover by connecting with people, then wholeheartedly yes. And this plays into my answer to your second question. I wouldn't use the phrase "people skills." That phrase is all about social context, and this goes deeper than that. It's more physical empathy than social panache. So yes, some people can be good lovers to more people because they are better able, more practiced, and more willing, to read another person's emotional and physical desires and act to fulfill those desires. Being a good lover is knowing what a person wants and getting pleasure out of giving it to them.