I can't really help you here, but I got some point in my life where I thought I was in love - and I noticed there's a difference between crushing on someone and loving him/her. I was constantly thinking about the person, getting agitated/blushing around them, could spend hours talking to him, it was important to me that he complimented me, I loved his eyes/smile/lots of other things about him I forgot
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Probably "friends with benefits" know it's nothing serious? (they won't be sad if the other cheats on them? it's not that important to them?)
The problem with the different fields of love and attraction is, supposedly, that it depends highly on the individual definition. People see things differently, and define the differences between "love", "crush", "relationship" and the such diffently. @___@
Really, if it would be easy, people would know when it's really love and will work out and wouldn't get confused by their feelings so very often! A whole genre of literature is based on this, damnit. XD
But I know what you mean, as I elaborated, I never have felt the urge to get intimate and it always appalled me. :/ I think I'm just in love with gay (fictional) people making out. There is something wrong with us, but I think there's worse and at least we're not crying on the phone on regular intervals because we got dumped/had a fight with our boyfriend or whatever...
I guess you're right. There is no universal definition, so my search for one is very much in vain. Ú_Ùx
I think I'm just in love with gay (fictional) people making out.
Same here! <3 I have a friend who's really confused because of this. How can someone be so fixated on porn on one hand, while explicitly dismissing sexual intimicy. XD;;;
Maybe one has to be in love to get one's own definition - but I've got friends who aren't sure whether they are in love even after having been in love for several times.
You try to solve a great mystery here. (Perhaps a chemical/neurological approach would bring better results...)
Hahaha, yes, I keep wondering that. But maybe we just project it on something that doesn't have anything to do with us. Anyway, it's hot and I like it - so no regrets here. :D Also, I'll now indulge in this silly meme about doing/marrying fictional characters, because with fictional characters, things are always so much easier.
I was constantly thinking about the person, getting agitated/blushing around them, could spend hours talking to him, it was important to me that he complimented me, I loved his eyes/smile/lots of other things about him I forgot ( ... )
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But, if love really *was* all that I listed under friendship combined with sexual intimacy, what are "friends with benefits"? =/
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The problem with the different fields of love and attraction is, supposedly, that it depends highly on the individual definition. People see things differently, and define the differences between "love", "crush", "relationship" and the such diffently. @___@
Really, if it would be easy, people would know when it's really love and will work out and wouldn't get confused by their feelings so very often!
A whole genre of literature is based on this, damnit. XD
But I know what you mean, as I elaborated, I never have felt the urge to get intimate and it always appalled me. :/
I think I'm just in love with gay (fictional) people making out.
There is something wrong with us, but I think there's worse and at least we're not crying on the phone on regular intervals because we got dumped/had a fight with our boyfriend or whatever...
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I think I'm just in love with gay (fictional) people making out.
Same here! <3
I have a friend who's really confused because of this. How can someone be so fixated on porn on one hand, while explicitly dismissing sexual intimicy. XD;;;
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You try to solve a great mystery here.
(Perhaps a chemical/neurological approach would bring better results...)
Hahaha, yes, I keep wondering that. But maybe we just project it on something that doesn't have anything to do with us.
Anyway, it's hot and I like it - so no regrets here. :D
Also, I'll now indulge in this silly meme about doing/marrying fictional characters, because with fictional characters, things are always so much easier.
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Oooh, science! Lovely.
Anyway, it's hot and I like it - so no regrets here. :D
Exactly. I don't need to analyze why I like slash. I do, quite a bit in fact, so whatever.
because with fictional characters, things are always so much easier.
Ain't it the truth. XD
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