Situations
Over the past year, I have been struggling. One thing I have been working on to improve these struggles is distancing myself from situations that were not healthy for me. There were many points where caring individuals intervened and let me know that I was doing something unhealthy and should work to eliminate that kind of toxicity and stress from my life. I'm not perfect at it, but I'm much better than I was...and I'm glad for those people telling me that I was losing it (and offering helpful advice to move forward). It's incredibly frustrating to be in a situation where you see people you care about put themselves in bad situations and make bad choices.
Today, I'm on the other side of the coin. People I care about are making some pretty terrible choices. I keep trying to say something but it doesn't seem to get through, or I'm avoided, or I'm simply dismissed on some sort of prior fault that somehow makes me incapable of having an unbiased view of the situation. But I'm seeing things pretty clearly -- and despite my best efforts, I'm starting to think it's just one of those situations where I have to let them screw it up to the point that things are unsalvagable. And that is what it will be - a complete train wreck that will pretty much kill everything. In order for me to survive, I've spent several months staying out of the way, focusing on improving my own situation and moving forward even after all of the trauma of the past six months. I cannot control the actions of others, but I can set limits for myself in terms of what I can and cannot accept/tolerate.
Today, I'm on the other side of the coin. People I care about are making some pretty terrible choices. I keep trying to say something but it doesn't seem to get through, or I'm avoided, or I'm simply dismissed on some sort of prior fault that somehow makes me incapable of having an unbiased view of the situation. But I'm seeing things pretty clearly -- and despite my best efforts, I'm starting to think it's just one of those situations where I have to let them screw it up to the point that things are unsalvagable. And that is what it will be - a complete train wreck that will pretty much kill everything. In order for me to survive, I've spent several months staying out of the way, focusing on improving my own situation and moving forward even after all of the trauma of the past six months. I cannot control the actions of others, but I can set limits for myself in terms of what I can and cannot accept/tolerate.