A dream that I think is just a dream
I had a dream last week that had an overtly kinky setting.
I was playing at a party. It was a setting that I knew in the dream with people I knew in the dream, but I don't know either the setting or the characters in real life. (just in case anyone was hoping to be able to say they were getting into my head.) The domme had me chained to the wall by my shackled wrists and was flogging me. First it was with a thuddy flogger, then a pause and a more stingy one. I had my eyes shut as I took the flogging and kept them shut when there was another pause before the thuddy one came back. I opened my eyes and glanced in the mirror and noticed that the person flogging me was a man.
Immediately I went all tense. This was not something I had consented to, and the domme who had chained me up knew this was a limit of mine. I looked at her and said I wanted to be let go in a serious tone. She said no and told me to take it. Other who were watching found this all very amusing and were lapping it up. This made me angry.
Meanwhile the flogging continued. I pulled against the chains but they didn't move. Then I began to yank against them violently, and in a moment of focussed anger I ripped them right out of the wall with a really cool roar. The laughing stopped.
I launched myself into the stunned guy who had been flogging me, tackled him to the floor, and punched him in the face several times before a number of bystanders pulled me off him. There was total silence. Then I put my shirt on and walked out. Someone shouted "don't ever come back" as I left the party and drove home.
So what does it mean?
I told someone at the party on Saturday and they suspected the man flogging me may have been society telling me to be ashamed of myself and this was my way of striking back. I don't think that's it. Anyways, all in all, I'm kind of a fan of society.
No I don't think it's all that symbolic. Trust in a kink setting is a big deal to me, it's something I think about a lot, and it had been betrayed in the dream.
As for the man? I've never been flogged or caned or anything by a man, and I'm not interested. If it were to happen I probably wouldn't flip out incredible hulk style, but I would be angry and anyone who failed to intervene on my behalf would immediately lose whatever trust I had in them.
Some people don't care who does the topping. I do. I need to feel some kind of connection to the top, and I need to feel comfortable being vulnerable around them. I can be comfortable being vulnerable around women. Around men it's another story. It's also true in vanilla situations. I have a lot more female friends than male friends.
So if you're a guy, my advice would be to not lay a hand on me in a dommy way.