Thank you. Just- damn, every winter it seems like someone else, and I've already got a collection racked up from Decembers long ago. And it was such a stupid way for him to go, after having survived to that point. (bad infection, open-heart surgery, turned out at the last minute to be less dire due to minor heart defect, more easily corrected that way for some reason- he was like a year and a half out from it, on his way to recovering. Just- stupid, stupid way to go.)
Thank you. On the one hand I don't like to reach the end of my stoicism in front of people, and on the other hand if I'm not honest about what's happening then I end up shouldering things alone. Thank you.
Yes, I realized you needed someone to talk to, that is why I'm here. I just wish I was one of those good with words. But I can listen if you still need to vent, and try to be of some comfort.
Oh, and you don't need to apology, there's no reason to feel embarrassed for showing to be just human. :)
I'm okay. I just- really feel that that was a stupid way to go, and at the same time, I can't blame someone for being sick and making a mistake with their healthcare. I'd just given him a set of three swords, you know? He was working on getting back into fighting trim (we larp- costumes, foam weapons, weekends in the woods playing at fighting), he would have been cleared for it like at the end of the year.
And he's not the first person in my immediate and extended circle to go out like this- the exact details change, but chronic conditions, poorly managed, by people who either don't recognize or don't want to recognize problems when they arise. And those left behind have to handle the fallout.
*hugs* The good thoughts are plenty right now. Send'em to his wife and kid, because- jeez, Amy is a pugnacious gal but this sort of thing she doesn't handle well (I mean, who would, but she's really one of those with a tough front who will absolutely shatter when her family is touched
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And, if you please, he worked in a basement office. Of course he was chilly. And when I say minimizing was a thing for this fellow, I mean his parents didn't connect emotionally with him at all and he was always very low-key and chill. It's so arrrgh because you can see exactly how it happened
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Amy does fancy beadwork, if you know of any fun or unusual beads she might like those. She's legally blind but mostly that means she can't drive, we're working on getting her in contact with some of the more helpful services (Ma works at the department of human services, she knows folks- more importantly, she knows paperwork). Katie likes swords, cats and Disney Infinity- she's just now eleven or twelve, I think. Jeeze, she was five when I first met her, she's grown.
I don't have a first clue about beading...but if you can tip me off about what size of beads she usually works with, I think maybe she'd like some Svarowski beads?
As for her daughter....hm....any idea if she's read Tamora Pierce's "Lioness" books yet? Because those come with a cat AND swords. ^_^
Okay- Amy says that she doesn't think Katie's read any Tamora Pierce, and she will take any craft stuff folks care to give her, so I would say- medium size and use your best judgement? I've seen her do things from the size of a peppercorn to she says her largest bead is an inch and a half.
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Oh, and you don't need to apology, there's no reason to feel embarrassed for showing to be just human. :)
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And he's not the first person in my immediate and extended circle to go out like this- the exact details change, but chronic conditions, poorly managed, by people who either don't recognize or don't want to recognize problems when they arise. And those left behind have to handle the fallout.
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As for the video- here is the youtube link to The Saga of Bjorn. If youtube doesn't work, Vimeo might. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MV5w262XvCU
http://vimeo.com/18011143
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As for her daughter....hm....any idea if she's read Tamora Pierce's "Lioness" books yet? Because those come with a cat AND swords. ^_^
(Also laughed myself silly at the video.) ^_^
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(And it is a darn good video^^)
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