Stress Post

[weirdlet]

So my forbearances are coming to an end, I still have no job, few prospects, and nobody's buying what I have to sell (ie art, although if I could whore meself out the old-fashioned way in order to avoid being forsworn, I would). I'm stressed and frightened and angry, but I've chewed those all over again and again so often the last year or two that

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[neldluva]

I need to stop being afraid of trying- but I'm so afraid of failing at this point.

I know exactly how you feel ... that was me, all summer. It was pretty miserable. I'd probably still be at that point if the job I have hadn't basically fallen into my lap. I don't think I even have advice, apart from don't give up! One thing you can always count on is that life will have its downs, but it will also have its ups.

Also, my mom has been talking to me a lot about positive thinking. One of her methods is whenever she feels bad/depressed/angry/negative, she tries to think of one positive thought, even if it's just a little thing. "Oh, those leaves are so pretty today." In theory, switching your negative thinking to positive brings positive things to you. At least it helps you direct your thoughts from the bad depressing things to something positive.

[weirdlet]

*nod* My mom's been on me to try some meditation, and that stressing myself out over these things is only going to make me sick and less able to deal with them. I can agree with that, it's just- sometimes it feels like it's cheating, like I'm looking away instead of staring head on into my problems *before* I've come up with a real way to deal with them.

I'm rather stubborn that way.

But yes, there are things to enjoy in life, and I'm going to make the effort to enjoy them, here and now and in the future.

...I just noticed your icon. Am now giggling hysterically.

[neldluva]

Hehe, it is my generic "things seem to be going poorly!" icon. It is useful. <3

I can understand the cheating feeling. Still, I feel like it's a good idea to let things percolate, sometimes, before dealing with them. Sometimes you can't tackle everything head-on ... in fact, that sounds like a bad idea. And my brain just went off on a tangent about the Lion King.

LOL, I suppose the point of this comment is "hakuna matata."

[weirdlet]

Hehheh^^ I think I need to find an icon of the Great God Om (holy horns).

*nod* I know it's not cheating- it just sometimes gets this paranoid 'if I don't watch it I'll slip and miss the opportunity to fix things, and that'll be even *worse*' feeling. It's the difference between percolation, and letting something fester until it bursts open and all your problems are unavoidable and you *still* don't have anything to show for the deadline extension you were given.

So- a little watching, a little more effort, but not so much crazy holding-grimly-on.