ring ring
3/31/2011 period started. it snuck up on me, but i'm glad it's this week instead of next weekend. we're going to new jersey for patrick's cousin's wedding, and then to brooklyn to stay with my sister for a night or two. i'm really excited :) patrick's dad warned me almost on our first meeting about his loud italian family. now i'll get to meet them all in the flesh.
this is the plan: house --> marriage --> babies
i insisted on the order. i don't want to be married and not live together. and i don't want to be pregnant and not have the first two things settled. so the time frame is out the window and the sequence of things is the focus. we toyed around with the idea of getting married in new york, but trying to plan that became almost as stressful as trying to plan a wedding, which is why i'm not having one.
that's right, there will be no wedding. the more i TRY to plan one and TRY to make it personal to me, the more it ends up looking and feeling like every single other wedding i've ever been to, except the dressings are different. and i don't feel connected to any of the wedding rituals. i feel like if i get dressed up and try to play that part i'm going to be faking the first moments of my marriage and that makes me sick. i have a different plan.
kym, who patrick and i met through, is a notary. she'll marry us. and without ceremony. she'll sign our paperwork. lynn, who hangs out with kym and whose house patrick and i first met in, will witness. we both feel this is totally appropriate and fitting. and i am extremely relieved. we don't plan on saying vows. we both just want to spontaneously start talking to each other. and we don't necessarily want the entire world to hear what we say to each other. the promises i make to him are for him to hear. some of them will be very personal. and i'm going to cry. the more i started thinking about having to say the things i want to say in front of other people the more i started feeling like we also might as well just invite everyone in to watch us have sex. it's too intimate to share with the world.
here is my ring:
i designed it myself. the bigger stone is from patrick's great-grandmother's ring, and the smaller two are from his grandmother. when i showed it to his grandmother, she kissed my hand and we both started crying. she LOVES it.
i got it on st. patrick's day. patrick wore crazy-dress to work so his beard and mustache and eyebrows were dyed green. we were supposed to have a quiet dinner at home together that night, which we did. in our underwear. after dinner patrick said he picked up dessert. before i understood what was happening he got down on one knee and pulled a box out of his pocket, and i started shaking. he asked me to marry him (for a third time) and i said yes (for a third time) while half-laughing at how ridiculous we must have looked getting engaged in the dining room in our underwear and green-dyed hair, half-crying because i was so happy. and surprised :) our rings were supposed to be done on the weekend, but they'd called him at lunch on st. patrick's day and he went immediately to get them. after he put the ring on me he showed me our wedding bands. he's wearing his grandfathers and the matching one we got for me fits exactly inside of it. i love them. i love him.
we're going out on saturday morning with a realtor to look at six houses. i have two favorites, each on opposite ends of town. one is near patrick's sister in apopka, the other is near kym in casselberry. both are in good school districts. i went and picked out a bunch of houses i like and patrick went behind me and crossed off all the ones in crappy school districts. and this is why i'm marrying him :)
patrick took off last friday and monday to spend with his niece for her sixth birthday. he took her to the zoo on friday. i got monkey pictures while i was at work. later that night he told me he'd also picked up trey's two boys and took them too. so by himself he took a five year old boy, a six year old girl and a ten year old boy to the zoo. what man does that?? it gets better. before they left he gave them each a card with different things listed on it so they could have a scavenger hunt while they were there. TOTALLY something i would do. i love this man.
i especially love it when he looks at me and says, "i cannot wait to get you pregnant."
this is the plan: house --> marriage --> babies
i insisted on the order. i don't want to be married and not live together. and i don't want to be pregnant and not have the first two things settled. so the time frame is out the window and the sequence of things is the focus. we toyed around with the idea of getting married in new york, but trying to plan that became almost as stressful as trying to plan a wedding, which is why i'm not having one.
that's right, there will be no wedding. the more i TRY to plan one and TRY to make it personal to me, the more it ends up looking and feeling like every single other wedding i've ever been to, except the dressings are different. and i don't feel connected to any of the wedding rituals. i feel like if i get dressed up and try to play that part i'm going to be faking the first moments of my marriage and that makes me sick. i have a different plan.
kym, who patrick and i met through, is a notary. she'll marry us. and without ceremony. she'll sign our paperwork. lynn, who hangs out with kym and whose house patrick and i first met in, will witness. we both feel this is totally appropriate and fitting. and i am extremely relieved. we don't plan on saying vows. we both just want to spontaneously start talking to each other. and we don't necessarily want the entire world to hear what we say to each other. the promises i make to him are for him to hear. some of them will be very personal. and i'm going to cry. the more i started thinking about having to say the things i want to say in front of other people the more i started feeling like we also might as well just invite everyone in to watch us have sex. it's too intimate to share with the world.
here is my ring:
i designed it myself. the bigger stone is from patrick's great-grandmother's ring, and the smaller two are from his grandmother. when i showed it to his grandmother, she kissed my hand and we both started crying. she LOVES it.
i got it on st. patrick's day. patrick wore crazy-dress to work so his beard and mustache and eyebrows were dyed green. we were supposed to have a quiet dinner at home together that night, which we did. in our underwear. after dinner patrick said he picked up dessert. before i understood what was happening he got down on one knee and pulled a box out of his pocket, and i started shaking. he asked me to marry him (for a third time) and i said yes (for a third time) while half-laughing at how ridiculous we must have looked getting engaged in the dining room in our underwear and green-dyed hair, half-crying because i was so happy. and surprised :) our rings were supposed to be done on the weekend, but they'd called him at lunch on st. patrick's day and he went immediately to get them. after he put the ring on me he showed me our wedding bands. he's wearing his grandfathers and the matching one we got for me fits exactly inside of it. i love them. i love him.
we're going out on saturday morning with a realtor to look at six houses. i have two favorites, each on opposite ends of town. one is near patrick's sister in apopka, the other is near kym in casselberry. both are in good school districts. i went and picked out a bunch of houses i like and patrick went behind me and crossed off all the ones in crappy school districts. and this is why i'm marrying him :)
patrick took off last friday and monday to spend with his niece for her sixth birthday. he took her to the zoo on friday. i got monkey pictures while i was at work. later that night he told me he'd also picked up trey's two boys and took them too. so by himself he took a five year old boy, a six year old girl and a ten year old boy to the zoo. what man does that?? it gets better. before they left he gave them each a card with different things listed on it so they could have a scavenger hunt while they were there. TOTALLY something i would do. i love this man.
i especially love it when he looks at me and says, "i cannot wait to get you pregnant."