advice, please!

[manabanana]

This is career related, but wedding related, too!

So, I don't want to go into all the details, because I still think I got the shaft, but I got fired last week. Le sigh.

Our wedding is slated for next October 6, 2007. FH and I have been toying around with getting married earlier.. For a couple reasons.

1.) My industry- advertising/ event planning/

Comments

[shannabannanna]

Personally, I'm all for the "go get married" approach. It sounds to me like that's what you really want to do, too!

[manabanana]

hehe, probably, but i still wanted some advice about it! I just don't know if it's silly emotions, or what.

PS I love that you are a shannabannanna and I am a manabanana! :)

[wildflower_tsw]

wow--this is a biggie. Have you approached this subject w/FH? What does he say? If you're not up for having the big wedding, by all means, go with what you're comfortable with. Maybe there's a way to compromise with your FH if he's intent on having the big wedding.

If you decide to get a job first, by all means be honest with them right off the bat. If they're not willing to work with you, then it's probably not the best place for you.

[manabanana]

you're right- this IS a biggie! yes, I've talked to him about it, and he said he would elope.... maybe we can elope and still have the big party!!

and yes, i absolutely would tell the job... i guess i didn't mean to imply i wouldn't! :) thanks for the advice, though..

[wildflower_tsw]

you can completely elope and still have the big party!! :) But, then the big pressure will be off and chances are you'd have more fun.

[margotheangel]

Hmm, one big thing to think about, if you were planning on getting married in the Catholic church, is that you probably haven't finished the marriage preparation classes yet. Would it be a big issue for your parents (or for you or FH) if the wedding was not blessed by the church for a while?

(FH and I have been half-heartedly joking about being married by a justice of the peace - okay, I'm more serious than he is, I'm afraid - but he's Catholic and I know this would be a big issue for him and his family.)

[manabanana]

props to you for a really good, good point. i <3 you.

[sarpo]

This is just my opinion, but I'm a big fan of travel. If you have the means to travel, and now you have the time, GO. Whether it's a honeymoon, or a vacation, just take advantage, because you don't know when you'll have the chance again.

If I were you, I would have a small wedding now (or just get hitched at City Hall), go on a honeymoon. Then, later, have a big party. Doesn't have to be a vow renewal (that takes planning and money, etc.), can just be a "I'm sorry we couldn't all get together for my wedding, if you can, let's get together now" thing. Not everyone will come, but that's life.

Of course, if your FH is set on the big Catholic wedding, that probably won't work.

[kalabaw]

You could possibly have a destination wedding wherever you plan on having your honeymoon. Then you can throw a big party afterwards when you come back. It might be a lot cheaper because the party can be a lot more casual than a reception after the ceremony.