Bridesmaids rant. Feel free to scroll.
Between me and my fiance our wedding plans are going pretty great. But my bridesmaids are being really shitty.
I have 4 bridesmaids. My best friend from uni who is my MOH (B), then another friend from uni (J), my best friend from HS (K) and my sister (C).
B and K have been really supportive. K got married herself in August and was helping me with my own wedding plans when she was 2 weeks away from her own wedding. B quite happily drives me around to places I need to be.. helps me makes invitations, came with me to find my dress, made the BM bouquets with me.
But C and J have been no where to be seen. J has yet to come try on her bridesmaid dress, which I bought 3 months ago. Which to be fair won't fit her now anyway because she's just told me she's 6 weeks pregnant (my wedding is in April). C is just non-existent in my wedding plans, unless it's something I take to her house for her or her 2 daughters to try on.
I'm having to plan my own hen party. And pay for it. And everyone else until they give me the money.
And now J and C aren't coming. I understand J not coming because we going partying, but C is just saying she doesn't have a babysitter. My hen party is in February, and SHE LIVES WITH HER DAUGHTER'S FATHER. It feels like she's just making an excuse. It really hurts that my own sister won't come to my hen party.
I'm trying really hard not to turn into a bridezilla. I know they all have lives outside of my wedding. They have jobs and partners and kids and pregnant bellies. But I kinda feel like they just want to walk down the aisle in a pretty dress and have me spend loads of money on them and just not help me at all.
I'm kinda going through a lot right now. I have various niggling health issues, my dad died less than a year ago and they all know I'm finding it really hard to plan my wedding without him, and 2 of them (including my sister) know I'm currently going through therapy to try to deal with mood disorder that keeps rearing its ugly head.
It just gets me that I chose these 4 because they're 4 of the 5 adults (the 5th being my fiance lol) I love the most in the world, that I'm closest too and they just either don't realise that by me asking them to come with to various wedding planning appointments with me that I want them to be a part of the planning, or they just don't care.
I have 4 bridesmaids. My best friend from uni who is my MOH (B), then another friend from uni (J), my best friend from HS (K) and my sister (C).
B and K have been really supportive. K got married herself in August and was helping me with my own wedding plans when she was 2 weeks away from her own wedding. B quite happily drives me around to places I need to be.. helps me makes invitations, came with me to find my dress, made the BM bouquets with me.
But C and J have been no where to be seen. J has yet to come try on her bridesmaid dress, which I bought 3 months ago. Which to be fair won't fit her now anyway because she's just told me she's 6 weeks pregnant (my wedding is in April). C is just non-existent in my wedding plans, unless it's something I take to her house for her or her 2 daughters to try on.
I'm having to plan my own hen party. And pay for it. And everyone else until they give me the money.
And now J and C aren't coming. I understand J not coming because we going partying, but C is just saying she doesn't have a babysitter. My hen party is in February, and SHE LIVES WITH HER DAUGHTER'S FATHER. It feels like she's just making an excuse. It really hurts that my own sister won't come to my hen party.
I'm trying really hard not to turn into a bridezilla. I know they all have lives outside of my wedding. They have jobs and partners and kids and pregnant bellies. But I kinda feel like they just want to walk down the aisle in a pretty dress and have me spend loads of money on them and just not help me at all.
I'm kinda going through a lot right now. I have various niggling health issues, my dad died less than a year ago and they all know I'm finding it really hard to plan my wedding without him, and 2 of them (including my sister) know I'm currently going through therapy to try to deal with mood disorder that keeps rearing its ugly head.
It just gets me that I chose these 4 because they're 4 of the 5 adults (the 5th being my fiance lol) I love the most in the world, that I'm closest too and they just either don't realise that by me asking them to come with to various wedding planning appointments with me that I want them to be a part of the planning, or they just don't care.