have I committed a terrible wedding faux pas?
Hi everyone! I hope you all are having a great week! Sam here again (my first post was here...)
My fiance and I have been planning all along to have a small wedding ceremony and then a very large reception with all the bells and whistles the next day. Only family and wedding party members are suppose to know about the wedding itself, mostly because I'm very nervous and don't want the ceremony to be a big show. All the invitees got the same invitation, which only mentions the reception. Family and wedding party members were told in person about the ceremony for the day before. Seems simple right?
Well, I've had a few friends and acquaintances raise a fuss because they were not invited to a "ceremony" of any sort. I even have one friend, who is very dear to me, call my MOH, demanding to know what was going on with the ceremony. When she found out it was a private affair, she ended up declining to come to the reception at all, and refuses to return my phone calls explaining my fears and nerves about the whole thing. Now that word is getting around that there is a "super secret ceremony", others are demanding to attend both.
What's a panicking bride to do? Have I committed a faux pas? The small ceremony is suppose to take place up in the mountains above my town. We only have a limited amount of chairs to use for the ceremony and it's really only going to take a half hour at most. What with the winding mountain roads, the small ceremony site, and the logistics, I really can't start suddenly allowing everyone to show up to the ceremony.
A big wedding was never in my life plan, and it already took a lot of meditation and self searching to get to the point in my life where I even WANTED to have this kind of event. My fiance is lucky, all of his friends seem fine with the idea of just partying at the reception without worrying about a fancy ceremony. XD
Any advice? I'm trying not to be hurt by these kinds of reactions and to just keep going with the plans.
Thanks for the advice in advance. :)
My fiance and I have been planning all along to have a small wedding ceremony and then a very large reception with all the bells and whistles the next day. Only family and wedding party members are suppose to know about the wedding itself, mostly because I'm very nervous and don't want the ceremony to be a big show. All the invitees got the same invitation, which only mentions the reception. Family and wedding party members were told in person about the ceremony for the day before. Seems simple right?
Well, I've had a few friends and acquaintances raise a fuss because they were not invited to a "ceremony" of any sort. I even have one friend, who is very dear to me, call my MOH, demanding to know what was going on with the ceremony. When she found out it was a private affair, she ended up declining to come to the reception at all, and refuses to return my phone calls explaining my fears and nerves about the whole thing. Now that word is getting around that there is a "super secret ceremony", others are demanding to attend both.
What's a panicking bride to do? Have I committed a faux pas? The small ceremony is suppose to take place up in the mountains above my town. We only have a limited amount of chairs to use for the ceremony and it's really only going to take a half hour at most. What with the winding mountain roads, the small ceremony site, and the logistics, I really can't start suddenly allowing everyone to show up to the ceremony.
A big wedding was never in my life plan, and it already took a lot of meditation and self searching to get to the point in my life where I even WANTED to have this kind of event. My fiance is lucky, all of his friends seem fine with the idea of just partying at the reception without worrying about a fancy ceremony. XD
Any advice? I'm trying not to be hurt by these kinds of reactions and to just keep going with the plans.
Thanks for the advice in advance. :)