Honeyfund questions?
Hi all!
My wedding is on August 4th of this year! :)
My fiancé and I have decided to ask those guests who wish to give us a gift to instead help out with our Honeymoon fund, and we are not doing the usual registry/gift tradition. I looked through the tags and found several opinions about whether or not it's okay to ask for this, whether people think it's a great thing to do, why or why not, etc. I'm not so much interested in opinions about this choice as I've already decided on this and my fiancé feels the same way (we have lived together for 8 years and don't need any plates/towels/blenders....).
What I am looking for are those of you who may have done this or something similar at your own wedding, or if you have seen it done by a close friend. Did you include your preference with your invitations? Did you mention it on your website, or just have family members spread the word for you? If you've also done this "Honeyfund" route, how did it work out for you in the end? Do you think your guests enjoyed participating in your honeymoon, or do you think they were offended by this idea? How did you thank them for their contributions - traditional thank-you notes, or some other way?
I got this idea from a friend-of-a-friend who was married last year and I thought it was quite brilliant. (Like me, she and the groom had already lived together many years before their marriage.) She included with the invitation a small card that said, "Because our household is already established, in lieu of gifts we would love for you to help us celebrate our honeymoon! Contribute to our Honeyfund at: www.addresshere.com." I believe she also included a registry option with a few choices, "for those who would still like to contribute a traditional gift." I thought this was very tactfully done and I wasn't offended at all. It felt nice to give them cash to go travel and celebrate with! To me it seemed much more lively a gift than a bath towel or a juicer. What do you think of this wording in her invite? I'm debating on saying something very similar to what this girl said, as I felt it was handled politely and had a festive air to it as well...
Thank you for your help!
xoxo ~
My wedding is on August 4th of this year! :)
My fiancé and I have decided to ask those guests who wish to give us a gift to instead help out with our Honeymoon fund, and we are not doing the usual registry/gift tradition. I looked through the tags and found several opinions about whether or not it's okay to ask for this, whether people think it's a great thing to do, why or why not, etc. I'm not so much interested in opinions about this choice as I've already decided on this and my fiancé feels the same way (we have lived together for 8 years and don't need any plates/towels/blenders....).
What I am looking for are those of you who may have done this or something similar at your own wedding, or if you have seen it done by a close friend. Did you include your preference with your invitations? Did you mention it on your website, or just have family members spread the word for you? If you've also done this "Honeyfund" route, how did it work out for you in the end? Do you think your guests enjoyed participating in your honeymoon, or do you think they were offended by this idea? How did you thank them for their contributions - traditional thank-you notes, or some other way?
I got this idea from a friend-of-a-friend who was married last year and I thought it was quite brilliant. (Like me, she and the groom had already lived together many years before their marriage.) She included with the invitation a small card that said, "Because our household is already established, in lieu of gifts we would love for you to help us celebrate our honeymoon! Contribute to our Honeyfund at: www.addresshere.com." I believe she also included a registry option with a few choices, "for those who would still like to contribute a traditional gift." I thought this was very tactfully done and I wasn't offended at all. It felt nice to give them cash to go travel and celebrate with! To me it seemed much more lively a gift than a bath towel or a juicer. What do you think of this wording in her invite? I'm debating on saying something very similar to what this girl said, as I felt it was handled politely and had a festive air to it as well...
Thank you for your help!
xoxo ~