Ideas for Father Daughter Dance...and other wedding ideas

[missmindijean]

My dad and I have a horrible relationship, but I am a very traditional person so I still want to honor the dad he was before I turned 18.  We both cannot dance at all and he lives out of state so taking dancing lessons together would not be an option.  Are there any other ideas for the father daughter dance without being a father daughter dance??

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[theblameanxiety]

Theres nothing saying you need to be able to dance to do the father daughter dance. Most of the weddings I've seen/been to, the dance ended up just being the "prom sidestep" anyways.

[kutie_kara]

Agreed. My dad and I just swayed back and forth like middle-schoolers...haha until the end when he dipped and twirled me. He insisted on dipping my sister at her wedding too - it's his famous move.

[theblameanxiety]

Or like, when you were little did you ever do the thing where you stood on your dads feet and "danced" with him that way? Thats sort of what most father daughter dances remind me of...just kind of moving back and forth to the music, not really "dancing"

[amymeenieminymo]

Haha, I do this with my husband (not really dancing, just goofing off around the house) when he is wearing his steel toed boots...it's the only time I can, otherwise I would crush his feet, lol.

[lalanav]

Yeah! That's exactly how my wedding was, too. Neither of us knows how to dance anything but Merengue, and my dad was afraid I'd be too nervous because of all the people watching to do it well (he was right).

[missmindijean]

The reason am I asking for something other than a dance has to do with neither of us knowing how to dance, but it also has to do with the fact that neither one of us likes the other one enough to dance together.

[theblameanxiety]

I don't much understand the point then I guess... If you're doing it because youre traditional despite the fact that you dont have a good relationship, then doing something other than a dance wouldn't really be traditional?

[missmindijean]

It wont be tradition to the T but it will still be in a way. The father daughter dance is a focus on the relationship you have with your dad both as a child and as an adult, my dad and I lost our relationship around the time I turned 18, but that does not mean he wasnt a good dad before then. I want to honor that in a way that is respectful and accurate without dancing to some song that is singing about all these emotions that he no longer feels for me.

[bubblytoes28]

You can pick a song that doesn't have those lyrics :)

Somewhere Over the Rainbow comes to mind - lots of people use that for a father/daughter dance.

As far as dress ideas go, I found that what I liked after actually shopping/trying on was completely different than what I liked just flipping through magazines. So I would suggest going to try some things on before you are ready to buy. I wish I had gone shopping right away so when I looked through these magazines I would have had a better idea of what I liked on me.

[amymeenieminymo]

My dad and I danced to I loved her first my Heartland, which is very emotional and very much about having a hard time letting her go. Maybe you could find a song that's nice, but not one about such specific emotions.

Or, I've seen some people just choose a nice song and the bride dances with her father at the same time that the groom dances with his mother. This may not work depending on what your FH and his mom want to do, but it's an option.