That whole whine about how "weddings are about family" really is starting to piss me off, too. It's all emotional blackmail and manipulation and spotlight-stealing. (anyone who uses that old saw really wants to say "NO! THIS IS ABOUT MEEE" but doesn't have the balls/ovaries) Weddings should be about the bride and groom, and representative of their lives - not anyone else.
My mom is pretty damn chill about the whole thing, and when she does criticize something, it's for damn good reason. (She is my favorite person to shop for anything with for this reason). My FMIL on the other hand, is driving us around the bend with TRADITION and FAMILY and EXPECTATION. Meanwhile? She and my FFIL ELOPED. And it was an interfaith marraige, back when that meant something. I mean, where was your precious tradition and family then, lady?
IT'S ABOUT FAMILY = WHHHHY IS THIS ABOUT YOUR KIND OF PARTY WITH YOUR FRIENDS? I WANT MY KIND OF PARTY WITH MYYYY FRIENDS AND YOU AND YOUR NEW HUSBAND AS DECORATIONS!
As for your MOH? ::hands:: She should have said something. Also, you *can* have more than one slide show.
Mostly, hang in there, and refer to the icon in times of strife. It's served me well.
Yes, yes, and YES! You are SO right about it being emotional blackmail and manipulation. That is EXACTLY what it is. I told her, "Why can't you just think of it as an awesome party that you're invited to and all you have to do is show up and have fun?" Because that's all it is!
My mom had been in quite a few weddings, and she said that the level of immaturity that comes out in some of the mothers of the bride that she witnessed was pretty legendary. For some, they don't want to let their baby go. For others, they are horrified that they have a child old enough to wed and are fighting age. Or it's a combination of the two.
My mom is pretty damn chill about the whole thing, and when she does criticize something, it's for damn good reason. (She is my favorite person to shop for anything with for this reason). My FMIL on the other hand, is driving us around the bend with TRADITION and FAMILY and EXPECTATION. Meanwhile? She and my FFIL ELOPED. And it was an interfaith marraige, back when that meant something. I mean, where was your precious tradition and family then, lady?
IT'S ABOUT FAMILY = WHHHHY IS THIS ABOUT YOUR KIND OF PARTY WITH YOUR FRIENDS? I WANT MY KIND OF PARTY WITH MYYYY FRIENDS AND YOU AND YOUR NEW HUSBAND AS DECORATIONS!
As for your MOH? ::hands:: She should have said something. Also, you *can* have more than one slide show.
Mostly, hang in there, and refer to the icon in times of strife. It's served me well.
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A Practical Wedding asked a mom to weigh in on it, but it was barely better than a stream of consciousness that amounted to, "Oh, we're going through a lot of emotion." That's nice, but so are we! (the article, if you're interested: http://apracticalwedding.com/2011/04/ask-team-practical-mamadrama-revisted/#more-11008)
Anyway, I am pouring you an imaginary cocktail and shaking my pompoms that you stand your ground. YOU CAN DO IT!
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OMG that's exactly what my mom is doing!
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