Warning: Rant Ahead.
I am enjoying every aspect of planning my wedding except for one: my mother's input.
My fiancé is from California, my family is from Ontario and we live in Boston. So everyone who is to attend this wedding is basically scattered all across the U.S. and Canada. No real way around this. When we decided to have our wedding in Boston (the most logical decision since we live here) my mom threw a HUGE fit. "Do you know how expensive Boston is! It's tradition to have the wedding in the bride's hometown! I can't believe you!"
Keep in mind that my parents aren't paying for any of this wedding. It's all coming out of my pocket.
Every little thing that I have told her about the wedding has been met with a negative comment. I told her this and she simply refuses to believe that what she's saying is negative. She claims that she just keeps thinking about all the stuff I could have had if I'd had the wedding where she lives (since things there are cheaper). Thing is...I like everything about my wedding so far. I am glad we're having it in Boston and never ONCE have I thought, 'Oh, this would have been better in Canada." Nope. Not once. But that doesn't matter.
I'd also like her to get over the whole, "your wedding is about your families! It's not just about you two!" Really?! Cause I could very easily have a wedding without anyone but my fiancé and I...
Ugh. Just...ugh. I end up crying half the time we talk about it. I don't understand how she thinks what she's doing is okay. She keeps mentioning how much the wedding is going to cost her, "I'll have to pay for your sister to go and the hotel and...and...and" Yeah. Boston is expensive. I feel bad that it's going to cost everyone a decent amount to come, but...she's not hurting for cash (far from it!) and if it's really such a burden - don't go or stop mentioning it!
I'm also dealing with an immigration time line and the fact that I can't come home for a bridal shower or a bachlorette party (two things that I don't really care about, honestly) apparently means it's the end of the world! According to my mother I should be ashamed that I'm not allowing them to be more involved in my wedding. It's hard because her intentions are in the right place - she just wants to be there for me - but she's going about it in SUCH a wrong way.
And don't even get me started on my MOH. My sister. Oh. She's a peach. I told her I was planning on putting together a slide show of pictures of my fiancé and I for the wedding and she flipped. "I was going to do that!" she yelled. I have no idea how she was planning on doing it without access to 90% of the applicable pictures, but whatever. I thanked her, told her she didn't need to worry about it, that I was very excited to do it and she says, "What the fuck! I'm your Maid of Honor! What am I even supposed to do then?!"
YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO DO!? YOUR ONLY JOB IS TO MAKE MY WEDDING EASIER FOR ME! HOLY FUCK. THAT IS YOUR ONLY JOB AND YOU'RE FAILING SO HARD!!!!!
Ahem. I didn't say that but...oh, how I wanted to.
My fiancé is from California, my family is from Ontario and we live in Boston. So everyone who is to attend this wedding is basically scattered all across the U.S. and Canada. No real way around this. When we decided to have our wedding in Boston (the most logical decision since we live here) my mom threw a HUGE fit. "Do you know how expensive Boston is! It's tradition to have the wedding in the bride's hometown! I can't believe you!"
Keep in mind that my parents aren't paying for any of this wedding. It's all coming out of my pocket.
Every little thing that I have told her about the wedding has been met with a negative comment. I told her this and she simply refuses to believe that what she's saying is negative. She claims that she just keeps thinking about all the stuff I could have had if I'd had the wedding where she lives (since things there are cheaper). Thing is...I like everything about my wedding so far. I am glad we're having it in Boston and never ONCE have I thought, 'Oh, this would have been better in Canada." Nope. Not once. But that doesn't matter.
I'd also like her to get over the whole, "your wedding is about your families! It's not just about you two!" Really?! Cause I could very easily have a wedding without anyone but my fiancé and I...
Ugh. Just...ugh. I end up crying half the time we talk about it. I don't understand how she thinks what she's doing is okay. She keeps mentioning how much the wedding is going to cost her, "I'll have to pay for your sister to go and the hotel and...and...and" Yeah. Boston is expensive. I feel bad that it's going to cost everyone a decent amount to come, but...she's not hurting for cash (far from it!) and if it's really such a burden - don't go or stop mentioning it!
I'm also dealing with an immigration time line and the fact that I can't come home for a bridal shower or a bachlorette party (two things that I don't really care about, honestly) apparently means it's the end of the world! According to my mother I should be ashamed that I'm not allowing them to be more involved in my wedding. It's hard because her intentions are in the right place - she just wants to be there for me - but she's going about it in SUCH a wrong way.
And don't even get me started on my MOH. My sister. Oh. She's a peach. I told her I was planning on putting together a slide show of pictures of my fiancé and I for the wedding and she flipped. "I was going to do that!" she yelled. I have no idea how she was planning on doing it without access to 90% of the applicable pictures, but whatever. I thanked her, told her she didn't need to worry about it, that I was very excited to do it and she says, "What the fuck! I'm your Maid of Honor! What am I even supposed to do then?!"
YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO DO!? YOUR ONLY JOB IS TO MAKE MY WEDDING EASIER FOR ME! HOLY FUCK. THAT IS YOUR ONLY JOB AND YOU'RE FAILING SO HARD!!!!!
Ahem. I didn't say that but...oh, how I wanted to.