So, my first major bit of drama...
The short and short of it is my sister and her boyfriend of 6 years broke up about 2 weeks ago.
The unabridged version is this. My sister, Angel (my twin sister, actually) is my MOH. My fiancé, David, is best friends with her ex, Matt. The only reason he's not in the wedding party is because we opted to keep our party to our siblings. My mother absolutely HATES Matt. Like, despises him. (So, she's overjoyed by their recent split.) We're doing an iTunes reception using my laptop and a vast assortment of recently downloaded music. Matt was originally going to be our MC, but has gracefully stepped down due to the circumstances. Now, we had already sent the invitation when this all went down. David still wants Matt to come. My sister was indifferent when I asked. My mother is pushing to uninvite him. (Like, REEEEALLY pushing.) She's concerned Matt will get drunk, grab the mic and ruin the reception.
The problem is that David has asked for precious little during this whole wedding planning fandango. He's asked for no chair covers (we negotiated for just bows to decorate them) and for us to go to Disney World as our honeymoon. That's it. I personally have no real problem with Matt coming. (He's not my favourite person. However, I'm pretty sure he'll behave himself for the wedding because he's so close to David.) But, as stated above, my matriarch is REALLY pushing for him to be uninvited. To the point of claiming I would be ruining the night for my sister if I include Matt.
Now, Matt hasn't sent back his RSVP yet. I'm of the opinion that if he replies with a 'Yes' we should include him and that's that. David wants his friend there and I agree that since he was invited we should honour that. And it's not like I'll be sitting Angel next to Matt. Matt will be witting at a table with mutual friends. But, my mother keeps insisting I'd be spoiling Angel's time and making it awkward for her.
Am I making the right decision? It seems like mum's trying to make me choose between what David wants and what she wants...
Wow. That was fast~ Thanks for the reassurance, ladies. Y'all are awesome. <3
The unabridged version is this. My sister, Angel (my twin sister, actually) is my MOH. My fiancé, David, is best friends with her ex, Matt. The only reason he's not in the wedding party is because we opted to keep our party to our siblings. My mother absolutely HATES Matt. Like, despises him. (So, she's overjoyed by their recent split.) We're doing an iTunes reception using my laptop and a vast assortment of recently downloaded music. Matt was originally going to be our MC, but has gracefully stepped down due to the circumstances. Now, we had already sent the invitation when this all went down. David still wants Matt to come. My sister was indifferent when I asked. My mother is pushing to uninvite him. (Like, REEEEALLY pushing.) She's concerned Matt will get drunk, grab the mic and ruin the reception.
The problem is that David has asked for precious little during this whole wedding planning fandango. He's asked for no chair covers (we negotiated for just bows to decorate them) and for us to go to Disney World as our honeymoon. That's it. I personally have no real problem with Matt coming. (He's not my favourite person. However, I'm pretty sure he'll behave himself for the wedding because he's so close to David.) But, as stated above, my matriarch is REALLY pushing for him to be uninvited. To the point of claiming I would be ruining the night for my sister if I include Matt.
Now, Matt hasn't sent back his RSVP yet. I'm of the opinion that if he replies with a 'Yes' we should include him and that's that. David wants his friend there and I agree that since he was invited we should honour that. And it's not like I'll be sitting Angel next to Matt. Matt will be witting at a table with mutual friends. But, my mother keeps insisting I'd be spoiling Angel's time and making it awkward for her.
Am I making the right decision? It seems like mum's trying to make me choose between what David wants and what she wants...
Wow. That was fast~ Thanks for the reassurance, ladies. Y'all are awesome. <3