Invite Wording Etiquette and Food Issues
So, quick reminder:
our date is Sunday 07 November 2010
11:30 wedding with lunch following for 35-40
2:30 reception (same location) with hors d'ouvres with additional 100+ people
I am gluten intolerant and very sensitive. One of the reasons that we chose the venue that we did for our wedding/reception is that the chef is sure he can safely do a gluten free meal. Since our venue is a golf course clubhouse and it is off-season they are letting us bring in as much food for the hors d'ouvres as we want so we can control the safety of what is there.
If i'm not planning to eat everything served why are we going to so much trouble? Because cross-contamination is the enemy. Think of it this way: guest touches bread, guest then shakes bride's hand, bride's hand is now glutened: if i were to eat anything with that hand i would become very ill very quickly. OR Guest sips beer, kisses bride, bride becomes ill. etc. (yeah, it sucks.)
FH was insistent that i should be able to eat and not worry about cross-contamination on our wedding day, as such ALL of the food/beverages we are serving will be gluten free. (although it just now occurs to me that anyone buying beer from the bar will then be glutened - damn.)
So our invitations are the type with inserts - we have one for directions, one for out of town guests, one for parents of small children (approx. 20% of our guests will be children), and FH would like an insert about the food issue.
why? i often see parents with small children bringing food/snacks with them. i have seen people eat a sandwich on the way to an event that is already planning to feed them. But mostly i am terrified of being in pain & sick on my wedding day and then all of our honeymoon. (i'm already planning to order food testing kits to check my food before i eat it and bringing a backup meal just in case.)
Anyhow, FH and i started to type something up last night, but ended up giving up after the first couple of sentences:
"As many of you know, the bride is gluten intolerant. As such, we will only be serving foods that are gluten free to help limit the likelihood that she will be made ill on our wedding day."
...and because i was tired and frustrated i added: "Please don't bring bread in with you or touch bread and then touch me or my food. If you make me sick at my wedding i will [expletives]." but obviously this won't end up in the final draft haha i was really tired...
I *especially* want advice from any of you that have dealt with serious allergy issues, or celiac, or any other need that would necessitate putting some non-standard pressure on guests to not kill the bride/groom/etc. Anyone else who has wording suggestions would be appreciated as well.
Thanks so much to everyone in advance for your thoughts!
our date is Sunday 07 November 2010
11:30 wedding with lunch following for 35-40
2:30 reception (same location) with hors d'ouvres with additional 100+ people
I am gluten intolerant and very sensitive. One of the reasons that we chose the venue that we did for our wedding/reception is that the chef is sure he can safely do a gluten free meal. Since our venue is a golf course clubhouse and it is off-season they are letting us bring in as much food for the hors d'ouvres as we want so we can control the safety of what is there.
If i'm not planning to eat everything served why are we going to so much trouble? Because cross-contamination is the enemy. Think of it this way: guest touches bread, guest then shakes bride's hand, bride's hand is now glutened: if i were to eat anything with that hand i would become very ill very quickly. OR Guest sips beer, kisses bride, bride becomes ill. etc. (yeah, it sucks.)
FH was insistent that i should be able to eat and not worry about cross-contamination on our wedding day, as such ALL of the food/beverages we are serving will be gluten free. (although it just now occurs to me that anyone buying beer from the bar will then be glutened - damn.)
So our invitations are the type with inserts - we have one for directions, one for out of town guests, one for parents of small children (approx. 20% of our guests will be children), and FH would like an insert about the food issue.
why? i often see parents with small children bringing food/snacks with them. i have seen people eat a sandwich on the way to an event that is already planning to feed them. But mostly i am terrified of being in pain & sick on my wedding day and then all of our honeymoon. (i'm already planning to order food testing kits to check my food before i eat it and bringing a backup meal just in case.)
Anyhow, FH and i started to type something up last night, but ended up giving up after the first couple of sentences:
"As many of you know, the bride is gluten intolerant. As such, we will only be serving foods that are gluten free to help limit the likelihood that she will be made ill on our wedding day."
...and because i was tired and frustrated i added: "Please don't bring bread in with you or touch bread and then touch me or my food. If you make me sick at my wedding i will [expletives]." but obviously this won't end up in the final draft haha i was really tired...
I *especially* want advice from any of you that have dealt with serious allergy issues, or celiac, or any other need that would necessitate putting some non-standard pressure on guests to not kill the bride/groom/etc. Anyone else who has wording suggestions would be appreciated as well.
Thanks so much to everyone in advance for your thoughts!