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So...with just under four months to go...
I'm 99% sure I've lost my MOH....*sigh*
My best friend of 20 years (this summer) is my Maid Of Honor. She's been facing unexpected bill after unexpected bill...the strain of the economy has put a lot of pressure on her and her husband. I was her MOH in her wedding almost two years ago. It's been a expectation that we stand first in eachothers weddings.
She has yet to order her dress (we were scheduled to do it last week but her husband got a speeding ticket, taking the money she saved for the dress putting it off another two weeks).
Well...today, she woke up to a flooded basement because of her washing machine that broke...and had to borrow money from her parents for a new one and repairs in the basement and needs to pay them back asap. Taking the next possibility to order a dress for at least another month...and I can't afford to pay for her dress (let alone the facet that she still has yet to pay me back for the loans i gave her for her wedding....though i dont care about them i can't afford to loan her more money knowing i wont get it back...especially when paying for this wedding will take every last bit of savings up until the week before the wedding).
By then it'll be cutting it VERY short. So I texted her basically giving her the option to opt out of the wedding party with absolutely NO hard feelings. I completely understand where she's at because I'm there too...and I absolutely do not want our wedding to be the downfall of her finances and marriage. Her friendship and well being is MUCH more important to me than her standing next to me for a half hour at our wedding. Its not like she wont be there or wont help out still...She texted me back saying this was something she had been thinking about...and its come across her mind to opt out, but shes scared of ruining our friendship (it absolutely would not, no matter how heart breaking).
But the thing is....programs need printing/made, dresses need ordered SOON, things are going into motion and I need her to make the decision. How to I get her to the point of making the decision, but letting her do it on her own? How can I support her in the decision she makes (while being disappointed and frantic on finding another person) while doing whats also best for my own wedding?
Anyone else in this situation? What did you do? HELP!
I'm 99% sure I've lost my MOH....*sigh*
My best friend of 20 years (this summer) is my Maid Of Honor. She's been facing unexpected bill after unexpected bill...the strain of the economy has put a lot of pressure on her and her husband. I was her MOH in her wedding almost two years ago. It's been a expectation that we stand first in eachothers weddings.
She has yet to order her dress (we were scheduled to do it last week but her husband got a speeding ticket, taking the money she saved for the dress putting it off another two weeks).
Well...today, she woke up to a flooded basement because of her washing machine that broke...and had to borrow money from her parents for a new one and repairs in the basement and needs to pay them back asap. Taking the next possibility to order a dress for at least another month...and I can't afford to pay for her dress (let alone the facet that she still has yet to pay me back for the loans i gave her for her wedding....though i dont care about them i can't afford to loan her more money knowing i wont get it back...especially when paying for this wedding will take every last bit of savings up until the week before the wedding).
By then it'll be cutting it VERY short. So I texted her basically giving her the option to opt out of the wedding party with absolutely NO hard feelings. I completely understand where she's at because I'm there too...and I absolutely do not want our wedding to be the downfall of her finances and marriage. Her friendship and well being is MUCH more important to me than her standing next to me for a half hour at our wedding. Its not like she wont be there or wont help out still...She texted me back saying this was something she had been thinking about...and its come across her mind to opt out, but shes scared of ruining our friendship (it absolutely would not, no matter how heart breaking).
But the thing is....programs need printing/made, dresses need ordered SOON, things are going into motion and I need her to make the decision. How to I get her to the point of making the decision, but letting her do it on her own? How can I support her in the decision she makes (while being disappointed and frantic on finding another person) while doing whats also best for my own wedding?
Anyone else in this situation? What did you do? HELP!