Letting go
I have not heard (apart from the odd email) from my best friend in over 3 years, since he moved to Oxford and I moved down to Cornwall. I have known him and his family since I was about 5 years old - first year of Primary School, and R was a big influence in my formative years. I learned a lot from him - my likes, dislikes and attitudes.
I wrote to R a couple of weeks ago, eerily the same weekend his grandfather passed away. I am not scared to telephone or anything, indeed he has my number and I am always the one getting in touch by email or snail mail. I just feel with me doing the chasing all the time and not getting much by way of response, is it now time for me to move on and consign this, my best of friendships, to history? It is not easy, in my view, for blokes to be really good mates. I have no other really close male friends - my co-workers are just colleagues, by and large.
I can honestly say that R is and was my Best Friend, Counsellor and Mentor for most of my childhood, adolescence, youth and early adulthood. He got me into the Sealed Knot, we share the same views on many things such as music and literature, and are from similar backgrounds. R's brother is a few years older, and is a firefighter as well as a brilliant landscape photographer. I would hate to loose the friendship of both of them, but sometimes one simply has to move on to grow emotionally and spiritually.
Any thoughts and and advice are greatfully received by Friends on LJ.
I wrote to R a couple of weeks ago, eerily the same weekend his grandfather passed away. I am not scared to telephone or anything, indeed he has my number and I am always the one getting in touch by email or snail mail. I just feel with me doing the chasing all the time and not getting much by way of response, is it now time for me to move on and consign this, my best of friendships, to history? It is not easy, in my view, for blokes to be really good mates. I have no other really close male friends - my co-workers are just colleagues, by and large.
I can honestly say that R is and was my Best Friend, Counsellor and Mentor for most of my childhood, adolescence, youth and early adulthood. He got me into the Sealed Knot, we share the same views on many things such as music and literature, and are from similar backgrounds. R's brother is a few years older, and is a firefighter as well as a brilliant landscape photographer. I would hate to loose the friendship of both of them, but sometimes one simply has to move on to grow emotionally and spiritually.
Any thoughts and and advice are greatfully received by Friends on LJ.