Oct 30, 2011 21:46
One girl consistently flakes out on me, but she's a shut-in.
I wonder if I should pursue, invite her out so that her preternatural funk subsides. Even though she broke up with her more than half a year ago, she still insists that she is happy on her own. I want to help her, but I know that's a road I probably don't want to go back down.
You can't save someone from themselves and it's best that I try to avoid anything that will require too taxing an emotional investment. I have my hands full with Jude and I don't think that's a good precedent.
I think it's hilarious that my ex was in another relationship prior to ours being terminated; she practically leaped at the chance to get out of our relationship as a result. What an asshole.
I can do so much better than being in love with an empty person like her. I hope Damon enjoys my leavings and getting into a relationship with a woman who leapt out of her previous relationship instantly into his. It's my experience that those kinds of people are unreliable and he will always have that in the back of his mind.
As for me, I am FREEEEEEEE, but lonely. The past has only increased my general disgust for people, overall. i wish I had been smart enough to tell her to fuck off ages ago.
Whew.
There's a certain amount of trepidation as well at the end of my relationship since there is a child involved. I can only hope that the emotional distance between his mother and I isn't taking a huge toll. I try to shield him from the worst of my anxieties and mood swings -- he's so lovable and cute that I can't really resist much concerning him.
Jude is growing quickly (almost 2 years old), and he is saying a few words, but I know his vocabulary is pretty extensive. He knows what is expected of him, though I am doing my best to keep piling more onto his plate. He needs so much structure and the crumbling marriage makes me fear I was being neglectful, even though he is quite talented at entertaining himself, assuming he isn't tearing something apart.
This is important to me. He is important to me. When my mother and father broke up, my father never wrote...never called, even though I could get his number it was important to me for him to seek contact...and he never did.
Even now my brother is an intermediary. I am intensely ambivalent about that relationship.
Now, it's a balancing act. I try to be a friend to Sarah despite her intense hatred and imbalance when I try to give her perfectly good advice. If she is not careful, my parents will crucify her.
If she keeps pushing me, i'll stop caring when they try.
Cheers!