Painful Wedding Preparations and I always have them

[wa_seh]

I think my parents are people who do not own up with what they had said. Never.

And that makes me terrribly upset. Very.

I am not like them. That really conflicts with the values that I have and It's really hurting.

Like what JJ always mentioned, I am always the one who gets hurt and end up in tears.

I am , right now.

(Thanks for all the comforting

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[prisc]

*hugs*

I don't know what to say...having parental support is crucial but i think having JJ to support you is even more important.

[wa_seh]

Thanks... I am feeling much better now after all the verbal battle out there just now. I still cant accept it when my parents uses threats to force me to comply. Mom mentioned things about returning all the 8 tables that JJ's parents gave and dad threatened not to attend my wedding if I refuse to comply.

Out of anger, I retorted by saying that I am not going to invite them and they just blew up. How can they expect me to calm down with those time-bomb threats?

[prisc]

With parents like that, sometimes it's just best to keep mum. Some people just can't accept that they were wrong and even if they do, they refuse to admit it.

It ultimately boils down to pride. However, i feel it's harsh of them to threaten not to attend your wedding. Very immature!

[wa_seh]

I don't know. This is not the first time they used such threats already. In the past, they were very unhappy about me going out with a guy they do not like and they used threats to disown me or something similar.

Mom used to chase me out of the house since young because she knew that I wouldn't as I can't even look after and support myself.

I have been growing up in such environment and the threats they use are taking more and more toll on me. I will never know which ever threats they used will ever come true. I really feel that this has simply gone too far. I really wish that my FMIL is not such a person.

[bisoumoi]

*Hugs* I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things had calm down. Cheer up ok? :)

[wa_seh]

Till now, I still feel a little sore with all the verbal hurlings and accusations. Things has calmed dowm from the surface but the current underneath is still rather strong. It's like that everytime and I'm always the one being hit badly.

[pishako]

One key thing I learnt during wedding preps w parents is that... there is no need to tell them anything more than they need to.

We attended several close friends' weddings & even wakes before and after our own wedding (regardless of GDL etc) and did not tell my parents (who were somehow similar to your parents..)...

Some things are better left unknown... esp if you are not the sort who believes in xi shi xiang chong and if ur frens don't mind.

[wa_seh]

Well.. it's hard for my parents not to know about my close friend's wedding as they knew that she is getting married soon.

Yes, I agree with you...there are many things I did not tell my parents too as they really do not understand why we simply have to do things that way.

Thanks for dropping a note... sometimes I really a person just to hear me out.

[wa_seh]

Thanks gal... for following through my woes.

[prisc]

Just to add...traditionally, you're not supposed to attend another wedding 100 days before AND after your customary wedding. It's a superstition...but i followed it.

It's something about chong1 xi3 aka clash of good fortunes.

[wa_seh]

Hmm.. yes.. I have heard of it before. We are following the one month before and after rule for our wedding date for my guy's side. God knows why my mom suddenly burted out that we should follow the GDL dates instead.