Game over
Received this last night. . . I didn't think that his decision to buy a place was "a commitment to moving forward with us" - I am well aware that we weren't together at the time, but it's not even worth it to try to explain myself yet again. So that's that then. . .
"Hi,
Sorry so long in getting back to you. I've read your email about five times...pretty intense stuff. First of all, I'm truly sorry that it felt to you like "a punch in the stomach" when I told you about buying the condo. I didn't intend this as a hurtful gesture towards you. This past few months have been hard for me as well and I guess that I felt that I needed to make a move in my life (no pun intended). When things felt apart with us, I felt like I had no direction and so taking this next step was something I felt I had to do for me. After all, it is something that I've been talking about for some time, as we both well know.
But I didn't see this decision, to buy a place, as a commitment to moving forward in respect to our relationship. From my perspective, it was over between us, and I saw this as turning point for me, an opportunity to move on with my life.
Maybe I haven't been as honest with you as I could have been. I didn't intend to keep you waiting, or give you any false hope of us getting back together. I think it's just my nature to say "anything's possible". I certainly don't think that you should be renting a month-to-month apartment based on the possibility of us getting back together. You should do what you want to do, and live where you want to live... whatever you think will make you happy. I love you and care about you very much. Though I do have to admit that I wasn't completely happy in our relationship. I can't explain it...It isn't any thing you did or said, in fact, you were wonderful in every way. Maybe we just didn't see eye to eye on certain things. Don't beat yourself up thinking it was your fault in some way. Blame me, not yourself, I'm the screwed up one...
I don't see how getting back together now would really change anything, and I certainly don't want to hurt you any more than I have already. I would probably still feel uncertain about where we were headed, and I know that that would be unacceptable to you. I wish that I could say that I had a revelation in the last 3 months and suddenly know all the answers. Sometimes realization is a slow process. But I do know that you need to move on with your life. I know it sucks now, but this seems like the only fair decision for both of us. I still want to keep in touch, I still consider you very close to me, but I understand if it's to much for you right now. Let me know how you received this message. I hope that I haven't hurt you even more than ever.
Love, A---"
"Hi,
Sorry so long in getting back to you. I've read your email about five times...pretty intense stuff. First of all, I'm truly sorry that it felt to you like "a punch in the stomach" when I told you about buying the condo. I didn't intend this as a hurtful gesture towards you. This past few months have been hard for me as well and I guess that I felt that I needed to make a move in my life (no pun intended). When things felt apart with us, I felt like I had no direction and so taking this next step was something I felt I had to do for me. After all, it is something that I've been talking about for some time, as we both well know.
But I didn't see this decision, to buy a place, as a commitment to moving forward in respect to our relationship. From my perspective, it was over between us, and I saw this as turning point for me, an opportunity to move on with my life.
Maybe I haven't been as honest with you as I could have been. I didn't intend to keep you waiting, or give you any false hope of us getting back together. I think it's just my nature to say "anything's possible". I certainly don't think that you should be renting a month-to-month apartment based on the possibility of us getting back together. You should do what you want to do, and live where you want to live... whatever you think will make you happy. I love you and care about you very much. Though I do have to admit that I wasn't completely happy in our relationship. I can't explain it...It isn't any thing you did or said, in fact, you were wonderful in every way. Maybe we just didn't see eye to eye on certain things. Don't beat yourself up thinking it was your fault in some way. Blame me, not yourself, I'm the screwed up one...
I don't see how getting back together now would really change anything, and I certainly don't want to hurt you any more than I have already. I would probably still feel uncertain about where we were headed, and I know that that would be unacceptable to you. I wish that I could say that I had a revelation in the last 3 months and suddenly know all the answers. Sometimes realization is a slow process. But I do know that you need to move on with your life. I know it sucks now, but this seems like the only fair decision for both of us. I still want to keep in touch, I still consider you very close to me, but I understand if it's to much for you right now. Let me know how you received this message. I hope that I haven't hurt you even more than ever.
Love, A---"