Just got finished reading part I...
So, I'm two types of a co-dependent person: Obsessive, and dependent. Here are the characteristics...
Obsession Codependents tend to:
1)feel terribly anxious about problems and people
2)worry about the silliest things
3)think and talk a lot about other people
4)lose sleep over problems or other people's behavior
5)worry
6)never find answers
7)check on people
8)try to catch people in acts of misbehavior
9)feel unable to quit talking, thinking, and worrying about other people or problems
10)abandon their routine because they are so upset about somebody or something
11)focus all their energy on other people and problems
12)wonder why they never have energy
13)wonder why they can't get things done
Dependency codependents:
1)don't feel happy, content, or peaceful with themselves
2)look for happiness outside themselves
3)latch onto whoever or whatever they think can provide happiness
4)feel terribly threatened by the loss of any thing or person they think provides their happiness
5)didn't feel love and approval from their parents
6)don't love themselves
7)believe other people can't or don't love them
8)desperately seek love and approval
9)often seek love from people incapable of loving
10)believe other people are never there for them
11)equate love with pain
12)feel they need people more than they want them
13)try to prove they're good enough to be loved
14)don't take time to see if other people are good for them
15)worry whether other people love or like them
16)don't take time to figure out if they love or like other people
17)center their lives around other people
18)look to relationships to provide all their good feelings
19)lose interest in their own lives when they love
20)worry other people will leave them
21)don't believe they can take care of themselves
22)stay in relationships that don't work
23)tolerate abuse to keep people loving them
24)feel trapped in relationships
25)leave bad relationships and form new ones that don't work either
26)wonder if they will ever find love
Obsession Codependents tend to:
1)feel terribly anxious about problems and people
2)worry about the silliest things
3)think and talk a lot about other people
4)lose sleep over problems or other people's behavior
5)worry
6)never find answers
7)check on people
8)try to catch people in acts of misbehavior
9)feel unable to quit talking, thinking, and worrying about other people or problems
10)abandon their routine because they are so upset about somebody or something
11)focus all their energy on other people and problems
12)wonder why they never have energy
13)wonder why they can't get things done
Dependency codependents:
1)don't feel happy, content, or peaceful with themselves
2)look for happiness outside themselves
3)latch onto whoever or whatever they think can provide happiness
4)feel terribly threatened by the loss of any thing or person they think provides their happiness
5)didn't feel love and approval from their parents
6)don't love themselves
7)believe other people can't or don't love them
8)desperately seek love and approval
9)often seek love from people incapable of loving
10)believe other people are never there for them
11)equate love with pain
12)feel they need people more than they want them
13)try to prove they're good enough to be loved
14)don't take time to see if other people are good for them
15)worry whether other people love or like them
16)don't take time to figure out if they love or like other people
17)center their lives around other people
18)look to relationships to provide all their good feelings
19)lose interest in their own lives when they love
20)worry other people will leave them
21)don't believe they can take care of themselves
22)stay in relationships that don't work
23)tolerate abuse to keep people loving them
24)feel trapped in relationships
25)leave bad relationships and form new ones that don't work either
26)wonder if they will ever find love