So, props to Dan Savage for including a link back to vinnietesla.com when he posted my letter. It was a gracious move.

The most interesting and surprising thing to me about his post, and the comments there, was the massive gravity well around ejaculation. Even after I'd explicitly said that that was absolutely not what I was discussing here, Dan ( Read more... )

Poll This Poll is Totally Scientific

Yesterday, I got a comment on this old post about fat politics. In the post, I quote (to criticize) a comment I found on another journal: "Fat can be helped ( Read more... )

I posted about my fascination with story-labeling systems some years ago. My dipping my toe in the e-book waters recently led me to blunder onto another distinctive coding system, this one from Phaze, a publisher of "ultra-sensual romance."

There should really be someone more plugged-in than I am blogging about condom tech, but if there is, I haven't managed to find her. While trying to research ninteenth-century condom packaging, I blundered onto Wikipedia's tiny page about AT-10 resin, which may or may not be the same stuff as ST-10.

A little Googling led to the following data:

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In April, I posted a longish entry about sex advice site Scarleteen.com, focusing on a particular disturbing exchange on the site's forum between an uncertainly kinky young woman and Scarleteen founder Heather Corinna ( Read more... )

Some months ago, my discussion of Evangelical sex-advice site The Marriage Bed provoked a visit from co-author Paul Byersley, who offered a legitimate criticisn of one of the points I'd made: ( Male desire, female desire, and the gravity well )

for something so amazingly big, the internet is fuckin' tiny, and search engines make it smaller. Sometime in the late eighties, James Parry started monitoring usenet for mentions of his pseudonym. Two decades later, Marshall McLuhan is always lurking just offscreen, ready to tell you you're full of shit ( Read more... )

I'm new to being shrill and touchy on the subject of fat politics. It's been interesting. When I call someone on a sneering remark about The Fatsos, there's a look I get. I think it's the same look I'd get if I said, "Surely you don't think Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone?" It's the 'oh, shit. One of those kooks' look ( Read more... )

I suspect that a lot of the force for the Procrustean beds I discussed in the last post comes from good ol' Cartesian dualism--the drive to draw a line between the physical and the spiritual ( Read more... )