My rant on adoption

[vikinglady]

For one thing, I'm very troubled about all this "I'm a white Christian woman and I wanna adopt a Chinese baby girl thing." Okay, my family has known women like that - who adopted Chinese girls, and they paid a lot of money for them. They did. I'm sorry, but that's the reality. They basically bought these children. One of these women doesn't really

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[3rdpartystupid]

Just out of curiosity, you DO know that adoption agencies put prospective parents through hours of classes and interviews, as well as mounds of paperwork, to ensure that irresponsible, unstable--gay or straight, Christian or atheist, black or white, omni or vegan, poor or rich--people *don't* adopt children? You're sort of yelling at nothing here. Adoption agencies (which is what you pay for when you adopt a child, by the way--the services of the agency, not the kid) exist to filter out the people who are violent, financially or emotionally unstable, or who think of a child as a "puppy or kitten."

Some of those people do get through. But a lot of them don't.

[vikinglady]

I realize that. I'm just disturbed that some people want to adopt a kid because they want a "little white girl with blue eyes" or they "don't want a black kid." I'm just expressing my fears, anger, and concerns. I realize none of the people in question are going to read this, but I'm not yelling at nothing - I certainly don't view it that way.
I also have a right to bitch and express how I feel.
i'm also tired of your fucking ruler smacking my hands.

[3rdpartystupid]

1. I'm sorry that I misunderstood the intent of your rant.

2. When you express your fears, anger, and concerns in a public forum, while you certainly do have the right to bitch/express yourself, other people also have the right to address the subject with you. They also have the right to try to clear up what they might view as misconceptions.

3. What fucking ruler? I wasn't smacking your fucking hands, I was addressing what I thought was your concern. I didn't even think I addressed it in a particularly mean way.

4. I'm sorry if I got worked up about it. I take adoption very personally, because the man I love is sterile, and one day I will have to adopt my children. And I hate the idea of people thinking that I picked my kids--whoever they are, whatever they look like--out as accessories. Because they won't be accessories. They'll be my children.