Immediate reaction
Why is my immediate reaction when someone I care for is hurt (usually emotionally) one of violence? Example: friend breaks up, and is still caused pain by the presence and actions of their ex, whom I also know. I have urges to explain to friend that I'd gladly take to physical blows their ex. However, I know that ex is human too, and perhaps does not mean so great an offense, and is only protecting themself... Also I know that offering my services as an aggressor would not raise me in the eyes of friend - indeed I'm sure they do not want the ex harmed so.
I know it has to do with loyalty - it's times like these that I see how incredibly loyal I am and can be to those I care for (family and friends).
Is it also something to do with my desire to please, which I'm increasingly aware of these past few months & years. I can be changeable with regards to my company, adapting myself to what I think they'd like me to be. Not in great ways, mind you - small ones - more curtailings of some of my odder characteristics... perhaps?
I feel too that it is also some kind of desire to demonstrate my sympathy/empathy. That I feel their pain so keenly, I wish to lash out on their behalf on the offending figure. Perhaps it is too that I cannot offer advice in this framework. I have no relationship experience, and wish to prove my sympathy through a demonstrative action, as I can offer no advice...
I know it has to do with loyalty - it's times like these that I see how incredibly loyal I am and can be to those I care for (family and friends).
Is it also something to do with my desire to please, which I'm increasingly aware of these past few months & years. I can be changeable with regards to my company, adapting myself to what I think they'd like me to be. Not in great ways, mind you - small ones - more curtailings of some of my odder characteristics... perhaps?
I feel too that it is also some kind of desire to demonstrate my sympathy/empathy. That I feel their pain so keenly, I wish to lash out on their behalf on the offending figure. Perhaps it is too that I cannot offer advice in this framework. I have no relationship experience, and wish to prove my sympathy through a demonstrative action, as I can offer no advice...