It's a lot you ask of people. As we grow more experienced/jaded in life, we are more careful about the people we choose to befriend. Friendships are investments, and some kind of consistent return is expected over time. If we hear from other people that a potential friend can be a "creep" (your word choice) but not always, it might not be a good idea to make that investment--especially if it's just a matter of time before it happens.
You also have to remember that most people are very group-oriented. If one has a close friend one goes to bars with, both friends are probably part of the same larger group, or at least were at some point. If you can't successfully interact with the group, again, it's hard to make that investment.
To be fair, I haven't heard it said that you're a creep (or any of the stuff I mentioned in the first paragraph). That was an example. It mostly falls to the second paragraph, I suspect.
You're a likable guy. I think you're awesome, and hilarious when you want to be.
You mentioned intensity, and this conversation made me think of the following video in honor of another hilarious, awesome, intense person: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kRCWL7-hgk8
I appreciate the thoughtful response; that right there means a lot, and that's before the content is considered. I haven't digested it yet, but it's valuable input.
...And you're right with the video. I recognize those eyes.
You also have to remember that most people are very group-oriented. If one has a close friend one goes to bars with, both friends are probably part of the same larger group, or at least were at some point. If you can't successfully interact with the group, again, it's hard to make that investment.
To be fair, I haven't heard it said that you're a creep (or any of the stuff I mentioned in the first paragraph). That was an example. It mostly falls to the second paragraph, I suspect.
You're a likable guy. I think you're awesome, and hilarious when you want to be.
You mentioned intensity, and this conversation made me think of the following video in honor of another hilarious, awesome, intense person:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kRCWL7-hgk8
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I appreciate the thoughtful response; that right there means a lot, and that's before the content is considered. I haven't digested it yet, but it's valuable input.
...And you're right with the video. I recognize those eyes.
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