Soy: yes or no?

[blueskyhawk]

I'm slowly becoming vegetarian (I have been in the past but end up falling off the wagon, so to speak) and eventually I would like to become vegan. I have noticed a lot of products out there mention that they don't contain soy - forever I was under the impression that soy is a good thing, such as tofu, but I'm starting to find out that its not.

Where can I read up on it, and what are better alternatives?

Should I stop using soy milk for my coffee and cereal and switch to almond or rice milk? How about tofu?

Thanks so much!