TVD 4x02, Memorial

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I promised real thoughts on this episode, so here it goes ;). I'm terribly late with replying to comments and reading other episode reactions, I know. It's just that school started, real life takes up a lot of time, and when I actually have some internet time, I try to write fic. I'll do my best to be less late, but I'm not sure if I can catch up

Comments

[intrikate88]

You're very right about there being no good choice in 3x22- which is a symbol of them all growing up, I think, that they're losing the option of choosing the right thing to do; there are no right and wrong sides, just a maze of many people navigating and negotiating their very human desires and aims, and the clashes between those. Part of that was why I got a bit fed up with Klaus last season, because he was grandstanding as the Big Bad, but there were enough "small" dynamics going on that the big evil villain trying to take over was almost unnecessary.

Yeah, Stefan did ignore Damon's choice to die, which wasn't good of him even if understandable, but I do see a difference between that situation and either of them denying Elena's agency. The two of them are more evenly matched; if Damon had chosen to stake himself and get it over with, he could have, and he probably could have mustered up enough fight to keep Stefan from leaving to go to Klaus. With Elena, she isn't as strong or experienced. She can't stop Damon when he forces his blood into her mouth. She wouldn't have been able to pull Matt along or have the time to convey that she needed to with her brain bleeding out, had Damon been the one rescuing her at the bridge. The only thing keeping Elena from being completely denied any agency by Damon OR Stefan is their decision to step back and respect that she is a person too.

I don't know. There are no real answers to be found, which is probably the whole damn point.

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The two of them are more evenly matched; if Damon had chosen to stake himself and get it over with, he could have, and he probably could have mustered up enough fight to keep Stefan from leaving to go to Klaus.

They usually are, but not that day. Stefan surprised Damon, who was already weakened and feverish, and locked him up in a vampire-proof cellar. In 2x22, Damon was just as helpless as Elena in 3x22 (and 2x20, for that matter, when Damon force-fed her blood).

The problem is that this conflict is not only about agency. There are other values coming into play (like life and love), and I don't think agency can be treated as the ultimate criterium to distinguish between right and wrong.