the great divide

[ununoriginal]

after class todae, a girl in my class was joking with another classmate of mine, about getting him to go on a date with her, and he was like, 'sorrie, we're not batting for the same team.'  now it's as obvious as daylight to me tat he is, in his own words, on one end of the kinsey scale, and it isn't the straight end.  when the realisation dawned

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[nyw]

hmmmm ): does she really reject gay people just cause of their orientation?

[catskilt]

:||| i remember an incident where i was talking to one of my dad's friends, and he was an "uncle" whom i'd always been fond of in a vague sort of way. and they were really nice and friendly people, until he started talking about this apartment complex in canada (they emigrated to canada) that was populated with...."guess who?" i looked the anger on his face and thought they were ex-convicts or something, but he said "professional gays!" in a way that he would have said "flying cockroaches!" i was so confused because what the heck is a professional gay? then it turns out that they were mostly bankers, lawyers, etc. as in professionals, and they were mostly gays, and i didn't get what was so bad about the whole thing except that the uncle's face was practically red with anger and hatred. and i felt so, so uncomfortable.

[lastingdreams8]

What you said really moved me, that she'll miss out on some great people just because of their sexual orientation.
I totally agree. I don't understand how it's such a big issue who people choose to love, but as you said, the power of belief is a scary thing.

In a way, it seems like you wanted to defend the gay population in general, and not just the guy, but you also knew that she wasn't going to understand, so you didn't. I think I would have done the same thing too.

[girlearthless]

I can relate. One of my oldest friends is Christian, and so we hardly talk about hot button political issues. One time though the subject of gay marriage was brought up while I was driving her home and we got into a pretty heated debate about it (she thinks that homosexuality is sin, and that we need both mother and father roles to raise children properly), to the point where I really shouldn't have been driving because I was so angry. After that we went back on forth on email with long rebuttals to each other's arguments until I realized like you so aptly put it, we were running on parallel train tracks, and we would never agree, and I put an end to it (we haven't talked about it since). Like you, it makes me sad to know that she's one of my closest friends (she's a smart, thoughtful, and generous person otherwise) and I can't ever have meaningful discussions about issues I care deeply about with her without it blowing up :|

[sanjihan]

I'm with you on that one. I was raised to believe that homosexuality was wrong and immoral. I was raised to believe a lot of things I absolutely from the bottom of my heart can no longer stomach. I feel like I've changed my mind out of a real love for the welfare of other people and a general maturity, so, for me, homophobic behavior or implying the wrongness of someone's sexual preference is a hurtful and immature belief. I'm sure the people who disagree with me feel the same way about my feelings.

It's a strange, unloving, and difficult world we live in, but I guess all we can do is calmly face situations like these and speak up when we have the strength to do so. <3