the great divide
after class todae, a girl in my class was joking with another classmate of mine, about getting him to go on a date with her, and he was like, 'sorrie, we're not batting for the same team.' now it's as obvious as daylight to me tat he is, in his own words, on one end of the kinsey scale, and it isn't the straight end. when the realisation dawned on the other girl, her response was, '...i feel really sorry for u.' and even tho superficially everything still seemed joking and light, it felt awkward and tense, at least it did to me.
and it brings me back again to something i have always found difficult to deal with - homophobia amongst ppl whom i really like. now my classmate is a great gal - generous, open-hearted, articulate and confident. we share a lot of similar views on marriage, r/ships, our outlook on life and wat our profession means to us. all in all, we get along smashingly, except when it comes to our views on homosexuality. she has a deep christian faith, and it appears tat the way it shapes her world view precludes her from accepting same-sex r/ships. and it came as quite a shock to me, honestly, cuz she had seemed so open and accepting in all other respects. we had debated over it for a bit a while back, but ultimately, i let it go cuz i realised our views on this are like 2 parallel train tracks - they are never going to meet.
i struggled a bit todae, cuz i wondered after the fact whether i should have said something, spoken up against wat she said, talked to the other guy afterwards (but i dun noe him well enuff, and then again, why should i be the one to apologise for someone else's words?). he's out and proud, and i guess he can decide how he wants to react to homophobic statements directed at him. i'm not sure whether thinking this way is a cop-out on my part, and the bottom line is i still dunno wat is the best way i should have behaved in this situation.
wat i do noe, is tat i feel sorry, for this girl, and for myself. cuz we can be great frens, maybe even keep in contact for the rest of our lives, but there will be a part of us tat will never connect, tat will keep us from achieving tat deeper level of closeness. there may be gay ppl out there, who could possibly rock her world, if she gets herself to really noe them. but the power of belief can be such a scary thing.
no force in the universe, above or below, can ever convince me tat one shouldn't be gay if that is who they are - it's a belief and value tat has shaped my world view, my behaviours, my interests, my r/ships, my experiences, my life. and this very integral part of me, and of ppl she noes who're gay, is something tat she will never really get to noe, cuz the way she sees the world prevents her from doing so.
and it brings me back again to something i have always found difficult to deal with - homophobia amongst ppl whom i really like. now my classmate is a great gal - generous, open-hearted, articulate and confident. we share a lot of similar views on marriage, r/ships, our outlook on life and wat our profession means to us. all in all, we get along smashingly, except when it comes to our views on homosexuality. she has a deep christian faith, and it appears tat the way it shapes her world view precludes her from accepting same-sex r/ships. and it came as quite a shock to me, honestly, cuz she had seemed so open and accepting in all other respects. we had debated over it for a bit a while back, but ultimately, i let it go cuz i realised our views on this are like 2 parallel train tracks - they are never going to meet.
i struggled a bit todae, cuz i wondered after the fact whether i should have said something, spoken up against wat she said, talked to the other guy afterwards (but i dun noe him well enuff, and then again, why should i be the one to apologise for someone else's words?). he's out and proud, and i guess he can decide how he wants to react to homophobic statements directed at him. i'm not sure whether thinking this way is a cop-out on my part, and the bottom line is i still dunno wat is the best way i should have behaved in this situation.
wat i do noe, is tat i feel sorry, for this girl, and for myself. cuz we can be great frens, maybe even keep in contact for the rest of our lives, but there will be a part of us tat will never connect, tat will keep us from achieving tat deeper level of closeness. there may be gay ppl out there, who could possibly rock her world, if she gets herself to really noe them. but the power of belief can be such a scary thing.
no force in the universe, above or below, can ever convince me tat one shouldn't be gay if that is who they are - it's a belief and value tat has shaped my world view, my behaviours, my interests, my r/ships, my experiences, my life. and this very integral part of me, and of ppl she noes who're gay, is something tat she will never really get to noe, cuz the way she sees the world prevents her from doing so.