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So I was watching “Where the Heart Is” the other night. I forgot how much I love that movie, but then as I was watching it again, I realized how unlikely a lot of the events in that movie are.
For instance, Natalie Portman plays a woman who has some rough things in her life to get through. Along the way, she meets a man and he loves her. He does everything for her… for five years! One night, they have a moment and end up having sex. He tells her he’s in love with her. When he asks if she loves him, she says no. He’s hurt and he ends up leaving town to go back to school.
Months go by and she decides that she does want to be with him after all and she drives through a couple states to randomly show up and tell him that. He just accepts her, drops his life in college, and is happy they’re together again.
This instance has been on my mind and has really been bothering me for the last couple days. Do people actually do this? How can you leave someone that you love, and move away, cut off all contact for a few months, and just be fine together again? There is no “pause” button here. If that was me, that time right after leaving I would go nuts!
There’s a thought process that I go through after break ups where I re-evaluate myself and think about the reasons why things happened and who I am as a person. How have I changed, what could have gone better, etc… I just overanalyze everything. I have to distance myself from that person emotionally. It’s how I get over people.
Personally, when I’m in a relationship, I give my all to that other person. And when that relationship is cut off suddenly, I’m hurt, confused, angry, upset, jealous, and I have tons of self doubt and feelings of worthlessness. And when I finally heal from all of that, I have moved on. Now if Natalie Portman can do that to some guy, and then decide she does want him after all, HOW CAN HE OBLIGE? If I was that guy, I’d be really upset! If it’s been months since I’ve seen the person that I was in love with who hurt me so bad, I don’t think I could just pick up where things left off.
I mean, I know it’s just a movie, but it’s a story that is seen throughout a lot of movies. Boy meets girl. Boy falls in love with girl. Girl leaves boy. Girl regrets decision, realizes she is wrong and comes running back to Boy. Boy and girl end up happily ever after.
Um, HELLO?!! Are you kidding me? This does not reflect reality at all. Films may be able to convey drama and make you feel suspense and sympathy, but they can not take you right into heart wrenching emotion that you feel when experiencing a break up. Anytime this story is conveyed in a movie, it’s furthering the common misconception to the public.
Now I understand that this is the ideal situation. In real life, I have wished this has happened to me. It’s a fairytale that I still wish could happen in certain instances in my own life. I just know that it’s not reasonable. How can you get back together with a person who hurt you so badly? A person who made you feel so horrible about yourself, and made you question your own self worth? I just don’t get it. I don’t think it can happen. But I wish I could be proven wrong.
For instance, Natalie Portman plays a woman who has some rough things in her life to get through. Along the way, she meets a man and he loves her. He does everything for her… for five years! One night, they have a moment and end up having sex. He tells her he’s in love with her. When he asks if she loves him, she says no. He’s hurt and he ends up leaving town to go back to school.
Months go by and she decides that she does want to be with him after all and she drives through a couple states to randomly show up and tell him that. He just accepts her, drops his life in college, and is happy they’re together again.
This instance has been on my mind and has really been bothering me for the last couple days. Do people actually do this? How can you leave someone that you love, and move away, cut off all contact for a few months, and just be fine together again? There is no “pause” button here. If that was me, that time right after leaving I would go nuts!
There’s a thought process that I go through after break ups where I re-evaluate myself and think about the reasons why things happened and who I am as a person. How have I changed, what could have gone better, etc… I just overanalyze everything. I have to distance myself from that person emotionally. It’s how I get over people.
Personally, when I’m in a relationship, I give my all to that other person. And when that relationship is cut off suddenly, I’m hurt, confused, angry, upset, jealous, and I have tons of self doubt and feelings of worthlessness. And when I finally heal from all of that, I have moved on. Now if Natalie Portman can do that to some guy, and then decide she does want him after all, HOW CAN HE OBLIGE? If I was that guy, I’d be really upset! If it’s been months since I’ve seen the person that I was in love with who hurt me so bad, I don’t think I could just pick up where things left off.
I mean, I know it’s just a movie, but it’s a story that is seen throughout a lot of movies. Boy meets girl. Boy falls in love with girl. Girl leaves boy. Girl regrets decision, realizes she is wrong and comes running back to Boy. Boy and girl end up happily ever after.
Um, HELLO?!! Are you kidding me? This does not reflect reality at all. Films may be able to convey drama and make you feel suspense and sympathy, but they can not take you right into heart wrenching emotion that you feel when experiencing a break up. Anytime this story is conveyed in a movie, it’s furthering the common misconception to the public.
Now I understand that this is the ideal situation. In real life, I have wished this has happened to me. It’s a fairytale that I still wish could happen in certain instances in my own life. I just know that it’s not reasonable. How can you get back together with a person who hurt you so badly? A person who made you feel so horrible about yourself, and made you question your own self worth? I just don’t get it. I don’t think it can happen. But I wish I could be proven wrong.